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Why Natural Talent Is Overrated

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Have you ever wondered how it is that some people seem to have natural talent (in whatever activity: sports, music, academics, professions). In school, It was a constant source of puzzlement to me how some kids could just open a math book and understand everything in there so easily. I often wondered what was different in their brain from mine. For others, music genius comes naturally. We see those “geniuses” pop up on facebook every once in a while. You know, the 11-year old that is playing first string in a symphonic orchestra.

It always looks like things come easily to them. It can be frustrating, really, how some just seem to soak up talent by osmosis. The rest of us sit on the sidelines wondering why we did not win the genetic lottery or receive the “golden trophy” of potential talent as we left the maternity ward. What is it, we may wonder, that these talented people have that we somehow missed out on?

Is It Always About Natural Talent?

It can be discouraging in school or university, where everyone is measured according to performance and rewarded with academic “money” (grades), to see the same  people getting recognized, over and over, for their high achievements Some of them don’t even have to put in that much effort; they are just “naturally” smart.  Then there are the ones who are a “natural on every court, field, rink or wherever they play sports. They shoot right in and become Joe-Pro from the get-go. In the business world, there are those for whom everything comes so easily – they get the clients, they get the promotions while the rest of us sit and wonder what is wrong with us.

The Starting Point Really Doesn’t Matter

Everybody starts in different places  We may start from awkward beginnings, seemingly without out much talent that stands out at all.  However, over time, whether we improve is really entirely up to us.  The starting point doesn’t much matter. The natural talents that we have, begin to take a back seat over the course of time. Really, it depends on what we do with these talents through our own efforts that will make the difference.

Everything we do in has a beginning. While it is true that some people have a natural leaning toward certain skills or abilities, talent is much, much more than that. Even the 11-year-old music prodigy still has to practice over and over. Micheal Jordan was not born knowing how to play basketball and Micheal Phelps had to first learn how to swim. Some of the talents that go unseen are those within us such as determination, refusal to quit, perseverance and willingness to fail. Without these very important qualities, no amount of “natural talent” will get us very far.

So, we all have a starting point and a potential. It is just that our starting point and our potential may differ from someone else’s and it may be in a very different area of skill. Comparing apples and oranges does not make the apples or the oranges taste any different.

Most of Us Really Are Just Average

Most of us are just Joe-average, not overly talented nor underly talented.  We like to think that we (or our children) are above average (like in Garrison Keillor’s Lake Woebegone community),  We tend to overestimate our abilities even though we may not have all that much working ability.  We like to think that just by watching others (who make things look so simple) we are just as good.

When we consider all the possible skills that human beings can have, we really just come out average. We can’t be good at everything and, overall, we are really just people gifted with potential. But untapped and undeveloped potential remains just potential and nothing more. What makes us come out of the “average”  and into the “talented arena” is really a result of our choice to dream, to persevere, to plug away, to fail, and to not ever be defeated.

But They Make it Look So Easy

Martial artists (for example) make a punch look so smooth, easy and, of course, natural. What we (the spectators) don’t factor in are all the hours of practice the martial artist has put in to master this skill and others like it.  To master this skill, the martial artist has to learn to stand in a correct stable position and twist his body to transfer the energy from his torso into the punching arm. He must clench his fist at a specific angle to avoid injury to the fingers or wrist. This skill, one of many skills in martial arts, can take many hours and failures to perfect.

I have done martial arts (9 years) and I can tell you that to be a master of any skill in the martial arts (karate in my case), it requires repetition after repetition to develop muscle memory and automatic movements. Yes, it may look easy, done by a master, but that master has had to work hard at hand-eye coordination, strategy, developing rapid responses, and anticipating the moves of opponents (sometimes several moves).  The result looks smooth and expert, but it is the result and not the practice.

The Bottom Line: We Need to Do the Time

The bottom denominator is time. Whatever we hope to accomplish and do well will require a sustained effort (and focus) over a significant amount of time. Most things are harder than they seem at the beginning; the pros just make it look easy.

The more effort we put into something over time and the longer we continue doing this, the better the results we will eventually get. The catch: most people will not try that hard. Statistically, the majority of people will eventually find that it is either too hard or takes too much effort or too much time and they eventually give up.

So if we decide to stick with it, trying hard, giving it (whatever the activity is) our best, keeping at it over time, we will eventually outdistance than those who began with more natural talent than we had.  The opportunities are there, success is available, but are we willing to try hard enough, consistently enough and long enough to improve and narrow the gap?

The Tortoise and the Hare

The hare in the story had everything going for him. Winning this race was a done deal. In fact, it was laughable racing against a tortoise – how could a slow-in-the-mud tortoise even think he had a chance?  So the hare slacked off, had some burritos under a tree and settled down for a snooze But the tortoise just kept plodding along, slow and steady.

Maybe the hare had natural skill. Maybe he was Joe-Pro strutting around.  He didn’t even need to try -he was just fast. But what he failed to realize was that the compounding effect of consistent effort over time applied by the tortoise was gaining ground. At one point his bank account of talent was not enough. The tortoise may not have had natural ability, but he certainly had perseverance -that “stickability” and that was all he needed to win.

Don’t Be Like the Hare

For those who had an easy time, there is a danger of depending on or counting on these abilities to get you through. At one point, life will catch up and this “bank account” of talent will run out. If we don’t buckle down and adopt a regular discipline, if we just sit on our laurels and think we are good enough,  those other ones (the less talented, but hard-working ones) will eventually run right past us and leave us in the dust. But, if we are one of those “gifted ones” and choose to adopt a solid work ethic, we will soar right past everyone.

 Take charge

Taking charge of ourselves is a key component to success; a major player in determining what we will be able to accomplish in the course of our life, how much of an impact we will have on people around us (families and communities) and, ultimately how happy we feel as we go through life.

Seeing ourselves as an asset, something valuable that can bring enormous personal, social and monetary returns, means we are more likely to protect and grow that asset.  We need to take charge of making good choices and decisions in order to protect this asset. One of the best keys to managing ourselves well is to realize that there is a “scoreboard of life.” Everything we do will have either a positive or negative impact short and long-term, so keeping an eye on the scoreboard (how we are doing at what we are doing) is a good way to keep track of our progress and see where we can improve.

Get In and Get Wet

Going from being a spectator in life’s bleachers to actually buckling down and learning to master the skills we need to move forward can easily overwhelm us.  We begin to realize that there is a lot more to success than we imagined.   We may begin to question ourselves regarding our goals: “will we ever be able to get where we want to go?” ” Will we ever be able to succeed at it?”  “What about all those people who are already so good, will I ever be able to catch up?” “There is just too much to learn,”

Sometimes we need a jumpstart to pull us out of this “deep freeze.”  Sometimes we need to stop behaving like a deer staring at the headlights of a car, locked in panic. Sometimes we need to shake ourselves up a bit and dive in. The water will only be cold for a bit. After that, we will be on our way. We can get mad enough at ourselves to start telling ourselves a new story; we are just as able as anyone else.

Yes, We Do Need to Change

At one point we realize that we need to change some things, starting with how we think. As the saying goes:

If you want to change some things in your life, you need to change some things in your life

Of course, nothing happens overnight. Whatever skills we are trying to master, whatever business we are trying to grow may require hundred if not thousands of hours of focus and practice. It may require hundreds of failures (big and small). Naturally, It will always require perseverance and hard work. All this focus and practice, all this work will eventually make it look so easy to do in the eyes of the bleacher crowd simply because we have practiced so much, in the right way,  for enough time that we have achieved mastery.

And, We Will Be Amazed

When we have finally come through the total immersion and come out on the other side with mastered skills, we can look at the process with amazement. First off, we may be amazed that we got through it all and survived. We may be amazed by our strength, our perseverance, and our staying power. We may be amazed at all the steps we had to pass through, at all the failures and all the times we had to pick ourselves back up again and move forward. We may be amazed at the complexity of everything we had to learn to get good at what we do.

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Why I Don’t Do Christmas

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Fair warning: just saying, this post may irk some or offend others. It is different from some of my other articles. I am not going to write a fuzzy, feel-good article on Christmas. Although I have celebrated it for most of my life, I am ready to stop playing the Christmas charade.

I recognize that there is a lot of good that goes on at this time of the year and that many people reach out to those less fortunate. I am not saying that there are not good aspects to the season and a spirit of generosity. I am actually writing about the concept of Christmas. What I have an issue with, is the confusion surrounding what exactly Christmas represents and its impact. do we really know what we are celebrating or is it just “traditions of men”?

Saint Nick Mythology

First of all, there is the whole thing with Saint Nick (Santa Clause) Mythology, which has taught generations of children to believe in a fabricated story of a more or less benevolent and somewhat judgmental character who brings gifts (whatever the kids want) to “good” children while seeming to neglect the poorer children around the world. I guess his reindeer can’t make it to these children? And of course, none of this tradition teaches children about truth, since it is based on a fabrication, which is perpetuated generation to generation.

Jesus’ Birthday? Really?

Not only is there a problem with this Saint Nick Character, but there is also a problem with saying  that Christmas is all about the baby Jesus, that Jesus was “born on Christmas day”.  No, he wasn’t!! Jesus has nothing to do with Christmas and it’s not his birthday! We sing all these carols “ad nauseum”  to talk about baby Jesus and Christmas without even knowing what Christmas really is all about.

So what is it all about? Well certainly, it is not about “A White Christmas” or “Baby, It’s Cold Outside (Don’t get me started on that one). And It is certainly not about “Petit Papa Noel” either. What is Christmas?

The True History of Christmas

There is so much to be said here, so I will only give a very brief account. Christmas has deeply rooted pagan origins going back to the Babylonian Empire. Later, during the Roman Empire, there was a lot of mixing of pagan festivals and Christian beliefs. A lot of compromising was done and watering down of Christian beliefs and practices. Essentially, the Pagans celebrated the winter solstice by worshipping their “fire god” Saturn (Saturnalia), which harkens back to Semiramis (Queen of heaven) and her son (Tammuz), the sun god.  The compromising by the Christians and the Roman Catholic church led to an agreed upon date to celebrate Jesus (December 25th), but in actual fact, nothing changed; Semiramis became Mary and Tammuz became Jesus and life went on. The Roman Catholic church instituted Christ-mass.


What was Saturnalia all about? Saturn was the god of fire – other names included Nimrod and Tammuz). All pâgan worship necessarily involved human child sacrifice and cannibalism (consuming the sacrifice). This was standard practice. Other things that went on were orgies, gluttony, and all kinds of debauchery that we might find unthinkable today.

It is in interesting to note, also, that the name “Santa” also comes from the name Saturn, the fire god. There is nothing new under the sun.

Peace on Earth and Goodwill to Men

That is what we sing, don’t we? Christmas is all about bringing peace to the world. Or is it? Well, first of all, Jesus never said anything about bringing peace to the world. in fact, he said:

Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; i have not come to bring peace, but a sword.

Wow! harsh words. He came to bring division. That doesn’t sound like the warm, fuzzy love of Christmas.

And what does Christmas mean to all those people who live in solitude, or are just struggling to get by? What about all the people going through tough times? The huge focus on  Christmas everywhere we look all through November and December just magnifies the pain of solitude and poverty (and homelessness). What are they supposed to think with all the focus on family gatherings, parties, and extravagant gift-giving that our society promotes? Does Santa (Saturn) care about the children living on the streets or in shanty towns around the world?

What Would Jesus Think?

I highly doubt that any of the buying frenzy, serial festivities, extravagant food fests have anything remotely connected to the real Jesus. He told us to take care of the widows and the orphans. He was concerned about the sick and the down and out. He spennt time with the rejected in our society. I do not think he is impressed by what we call Christmas and pretend to celebrate in his name.

I am a believer who has celebrated Christmas all my life. I never questioned it, but just accepted it for what it was. I guess you could say, I went into automatic Christmas mode each year But now, I think it is time to rethink or think about what we are doing and what we are celebrating. Knowing what I know now, I can not in all good conscience continue with the Christmas charade.

Joy to the World!

Jesus brings joy and I wish you joy in abundance. He gives us life and I wish you life in abundance. There is no need for Christmas to have these gifts.

Thank you for reading. This is just my experience and my reflection. I hope it will be a starting point for your own reflection on this season.

Blessings and all the best to you and your family.

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Visit Spectacular Panama

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Panama: a Land of Discovery

I have awesome memories of our trip to Panama, which is squeezed between Columbia to the South and Costa Rica to the North. Geographically, it is relatively small – you can drive from one shoreline to the other in a day, It is also a country filled with a beautiful diversity (rainforest diversity and cultural diversity). It boasts a pristine rainforest, a strong cultural history, and a thriving modern economy. It has one foot in the past and the other in the future. I hope that you will enjoy this exposé of Panama.

Panama City History

Panama City is the capital of Panama and its largest city. It was founded in 1519 by Spanish conquistador Pedro Arias Dévile. This city was the strategic point for launching exploration and conquest expeditions in Peru, primarily in search of gold and silver. Panama was also the transition site for loading ships with gold and silver and bringing them back to Spain.

Old Panama (Panama la Vieja) contains the ruins of the original city of Panama, which was destroyed by fire in 1671. The city of Panama was rebuilt in 1673 about five miles from the original city.

Panama City Today

Panama City is located between the Pacific Ocean and the tropical rainforest in the northern part of the country. It is a city of cultural diversity. Panama City boasts an ultramodern city center complete with skyscrapers and modern architectural design. The Skyscrapers produce an impressive skyline around the bay. To get across the canal, there are two bridges, the newest being the Centennial Bridge. It gives you a bird’s eye of the Canal. But a bridge is a bridge, so it is  better to find a lookout point such as the Miraflores visitor center


Panama’s Old Quarter boasts diverse architectural styles including Spanish Colonial, French and Antillean influences.

The Panama Canal

The Panama Canal is a lock-type canal connecting the Atlantic and the Pacific Oceans. Its length from one shoreline to the other is about 40 miles.

Construction of the Canal was completed in August 1914. It was controlled solely by the United States from 1914 to 1979 and in December 1999, Panama gained complete control over the Canal.

Negotiating the Canal can take about 25 hours, including the wait time. Once a vessel has been authorized to pass, it can take about 10 hours to go from one end to the other.

Panama Canal is one of the very rare examples of synergy between a vast engineering project and rainforest preservation. The rainforest has been kept in pristine condition and it provides the water and hydroelectricity needed for the Canal’s operations via the Chagres River.

The Embera People & the Rainforest

The Embera tribes are the indigenous people of Columbia and Panama. They originally lived a semi-nomadic life in Darien province (South-Eastern part of Panama) However, due to the increasing dangers of Columbian guerillas and drug traffickers, they moved north to the Chagres river region of Panama. The Rio Chagres is one of the most vital rivers in Panama. It feeds into Lake Alajuela, which provides 45% of all the water required by the canal.

A National Park

In 1985 this region was turned into a national park in order to protect the Embera people and their customs as well as protect the rainforest and the flow of water into the canal.

This new development meant that the Embera had to change their semi-nomadic activities such as hunting and raising large domestic animals due to new land restrictions. Their main source of food and survival was restricted so they had to turn to other ways to help the economy of their villages.

They have recently adopted or embraced cultural tourism as a way to provide for their needs. This means that they invite visitors (tourists) to visit them in their communities to share their way of life.

Traditionally, the Embera wear very little in the way of clothing and will only really “cover-up” (tops for the women and short skirts for the men over their loin cloth) when they are expecting visitors. They wear traditional body paint which serves as both an insect repellant and an antibiotic.

Meeting the Embera Locals

On our visit to one of these villages in the Gamboa Rainforest, we were picked up and escorted in a dugout canoe to the village.

The village people greeted us warmly and then the men of the village took us on a tour through the rainforest.  They showed us the plants and trees and educated us about their medicinal uses. We learned about the techniques for hunting such as using the poison of the dart frog on their arrows. We saw and learned about leaf-carrying ants as well.




Following this tour into the rainforest, we were welcomed back to the village with a traditional meal of plantain and fish presented on banana leaves and prepared by the women of the village. We were then shown and invited to participate in traditional. dance.






I highly recommend Panama as a destination to discover a warm, friendly culture, an introduction to the biodiversity of the rainforest and beautiful landscapes. And to see the engineering feat of the famous Panama canal is worth it. I encourage you to discover all the beauty Panama has to offer.

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Illustrious Hearst Castle

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Where is it?

The Hearst Castle Estate, a popular tourist site, is located along California Coastal Route 1 halfway between Los Angeles and San Francisco (about a 4-hour drive from either city). It is high up in the hills overlooking the village of San Simeon and has a commanding view of the ocean as well.

Who Was William Randolph Hearst?

William Randolph Hearst was the only child of George and Pheobe Hearst, millionaire parents from the gold mining industry. William was raised primarily by his mother since his father was often away on mining business (he was a mining prospector and rancher). His father, George, was described as uncouth, preferring to hang around his mining buddies and dressing shabbily, despite his great wealth. As a child, Wiliam was overly protected by his mother and lived a very sheltered life. William is described as being a bit of a mischevious child who often pulled pranks around the house. He is described as being “difficult to discipline”.

When he was 10 years old, his mother took him on an 18-month tour of Europe. Even at this young age, Hearst was greatly impressed by what he saw in the culture, architecture, and art of Europe.

A lot can be said about William Randolph Hearst – that he was this and he was that,  that he had opportunities handed to him etc. etc. All the things that were written about him (and his character) may be legitimate, but let’s keep the focus on what he accomplished with a dream.  He was a man who appreciated art and was an eager student, despite not being a fan of formal education.

From Camping to Castle

The original plan was to build a bungalow (a family retreat) on ” Camp Hill” at the top of the family ranch. He wanted to build the main house and some guest houses to have something “more comfortable” than the platform tents they had. That is what he told architect Julia Morgan, with whom he would collaborate for 28 years building the castle. The family would regularly go “camping” at the ranch (probably more like “glamping” than camping) and he wanted to have a regular place to go to get away.

After the death of his mother, Pheobe Hearst (influenza epidemic), Willam Hearst became the inheritor of the family estate, including 250,000 acres of land.

Right from the beginning, William Hearst commissioned Julia Morgan (graduate of the Ecole des Beaux-Arts) to start working with him on the project. They would work together over the next 28 years on what would become “La Cuesta Encantada” or The Enchanted Hill. The project evolved into a collection of luxurious buildings, the main one being Hearst Castle, inspired by European architecture and art.

The Main Building

The main building, Hearst Castle, was built in the Mediterranean – Moorish style. It resembles a Spanish cathedral complete with bell towers. There are 115 rooms including 38 bedrooms, about 40 bathrooms, a theatre, and a beauty salon. The main dining room served as an inspiration for the dining room hall in Hogwarts in the Harry Potter series.

Guest Houses

There are three guests houses as well: Casa Del Mar, Casa Del Sol and Casa Del Montes. Below is one of them, though I do not know which of them it is.

The Indoor Pool

The indoor pool is a beautiful creation inspired by the ancient Roman baths. It is made from blue and gold colored tiles inside the pool as well as the walls and ceiling.

The Neptune Pool

The outdoor Neptune pool is surrounded by sculptures and collonades and has the facade of a Roman Temple at one end.

credit: Hearst Castle / California State Park/ V. Garagliano

The Gardens

All around the main building and guest houses are magnificent European and Californian inspired gardens,

William Randolph Hearst: Citizen Kane?

Much has been written about William Randolph Hearst possibly being the inspiration behind the 1941 movie “Citizen Kane“(Orson Wells). One thing is very clear, William Hearst did everything he could to prevent the movie from being released, from refusing to have it advertised in his newspapers, to using his Hollywood connections as leverage. Despite his efforts, he was unable to prevent the release of Citizen Kane.

There certainly were some striking similarities between the two men (Kane being fictional). Both built publishing empires, both built extravagant mansions, and both had relationship voids despite being surround by and entertaining many people. In contrast to William Hearst, who was born into wealth, Citizen Kane rose from a life of poverty to a life of wealth.

Whether or not he is Charles Foster Kane, many people associated William Randolph Hearst with the character in Citizen Kane and imagined him wandering throughout his massive estate alone, surrounded by opulence, driven by power, but starving for deep human relationships.

A National Treasure

Today The Hearst Castle Estate is now Hearst San Simeon Historical Monument and registered with California State Parks. There are daily tours to tour the premises.

Conclusion: Hearst Castle is definitely a worthwhile stop if you happen to be visiting South California. Despite the colorful history of its builder and owner, it remains, as well a testimony to the power of a dream. You will definitely be inspired as you travel throughout the buildings and the grounds.

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Change It up – Do Something Different!

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Have you ever found yourself in a rut where nothing seems to be advancing in your life? You wake up each with discouragement induced brain fog. No matter how hard you try you feel like your life is just spinning its wheels. Somedays you feel like a hamster going round and round, but not getting anywhere in particular. Sometimes it feels like the hamster wheel comes to an abrupt stop and you fall off and end up staring at the ceiling wondering to yourself “Is this all there is”?

There are different kinds of ruts. Maybe you are in a relationship rut. Maybe your dating life seems about as exciting as watching wet paint dry. Maybe your marriage life is in a drought and will need a firehose to revive it. Maybe you feel stuck in a job that does not inspire you, but you go in day after day because it pays the bills. We have all been there. Ruts just bring us down or put us into an automatic pilot mode.

Time for a Change?

Some of us just want something to change, but we have no idea how that will happen. We are looking for that magic bullet, that magic wand to just wave us out of the doldrums of our life and into a new life of something meaningful, something where we feel we are actually going somewhere and doing something of importance.

So, what can we do to change things? Is there any hope for us?. Well, actually there is. We can climb out of this “depth of despair”, as Anne of Green Gables famously and dramatically called her difficult life situations. We can change things up, we can make things happen.

Expose Yourself to New Things

Yes, that is right! We can show our brains all kinds of new things: new experiences, new ways of seeing things. We can take ourselves to new places, even within our own city. Why not go visit car dealers shops and take the cars for a test drive. You don’t actually have to plan on buying them. What you are looking for are new experiences. Why not go visit a million dollar house that is on the market? Go for a tour. Why not?  Try on new clothes (ones you can’t normally afford).  Go to a travel agency and get brochures of places you would like to visit.

What you are doing here is expanding, stretching your mind. You are giving yourself permission to dream again. Doing this – trying new things, seeing new things – will set your mind to believing that you too can dream and accomplish what you thought was too late for you or just for other people. And always make your dream bigger than your reality.


It really begins here, with a decision. That is really the first step. It is also the hardest and scariest step for most of us. But, really, nothing happens without a decision. It has been said that successful people are “quick to make decisions and slow to change their mind.”

What does this mean? It means that they get the information they need, they evaluate the data and make a decision. and once they have made their decision, they stick with it and manage it. They choose to ‘”stay in their lane.” The decision may not look like much and it may come with risks. Maybe they don ‘t have all the facts and most likely they can’t see the end of the road, but they stick to their guns and dive in.

This “making a decision” thing can apply to whatever we want to change, whether it be our financial situation, our parenting, our work situation or other. We simply have to decide to decide.

Change Your Thoughts

Any computer analyst will tell you that the output is dependant on the input. If good data goes in, then there will be good output on the other end. How do we get better input? Well, we need to change what information we are allowing into our mind. The fact is, the information we have received up until now is largely what has brought us to where we are in life. We need to get new and better information and throw out the baggage we have been used to, including the suitcases.

Whether it comes to changing your health, your fitness level or anything else in life, new information and new associations will change things for you. Get around new people who are going in the direction you want to go. If you want to improve your health or fitness, wouldn’t it make sense to get around people who are pursuing health goals? Now, of course, this doesn’t mean get rid of your friends and family; It just means associating with people who think differently and are getting the results you want.

Keep up the Momentum

Once you decide and are geared to make a change, it needs to become a habit. A habit takes 63 days (roughly just over 2 months) to solidify. so don’t give up. Stay on the path. Stay in your lane.

Find your motivation. Most of us have a 2-week motivation to go to work (pay check to pay check) and that is what keeps us going to work each day. It’s time to find a new motivation, one that comes from you, rather than a boss, whether it is a desire to change a situation you are tired of, or whether you are chasing a dream. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. Ask for guidance from people who can help you. And most importantly, stay away from the “whiners and complainers” – they will only discourage you.

Finish What You Start

Winston Churchhill famously said:

Never, ever give up.

Don’t quit, don’t get distracted and don’t fall back. Be kind to yourself and take your new path in small steps. Every day, do something that is moving you forward toward your goal, whether it is reading a new book or talking with someone who can help you. Don’t sabotage the progress you have made by compromising or slacking off (a bit). Remember, the couch is not the best place to find motivated people.

No matter what, time will pass. Time is a relentless thief that will steal your time away from you when you are not looking. We need to redeem the time and make the most of the time we have to do what only we can do. Don’t let time take away the precious moments you could have used to change things in your life.

Know that You Have a Destiny

We were not born to just pay the bills and try to get by. We are worth so much more than that. We have so much to offer the world, but how will the world know what we have to offer if we don’t even know ourselves because we never believed we could do more and be more?

The economic world we live in loves for us is to stimulate the economy, pay our taxes and be “good” citizens. While none of these are wrong, we have greater contributions to make and a bigger impact to have on the world. There are people whose lives we can change and places we can discover. There are new inventions to create and books to write.

Be bold, be courageous. Don’t hold back from doing what only you can do. Have questions bigger than your answers. Always go deeper than what you know and remember that in the end, we will never know it all.

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The Unforgettable Route 66

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Unforgettable and Fun Things to See on Route 66

Traveling along Route 66 is quite the experience. I really had no idea what to expect from this adventure or what we were in for. I hope that you will enjoy this post as we explore some of the fun and curious things we saw along the way.

The Beginning

It begins in Chicago, Illinois. This city is well known for many reasons, not the least of them is Al Capone (Scarface), notorious gangster and businessman during the Prohibition era.  Chicago has many beautiful treasures, one of them being its beautiful lakeside front and downtown water canals.


So, We Begin Our Journey


Traveling through the cornfields of Illinois, we saw these – Follow the yellow – no, red, I mean the red brick road –

and visit the  Lincoln Home National Historic Site in Springfield, Illinois  Don’t forget to visit the Lincoln Tomb State Historic Site – the final resting place of the 16th president.


A stop in St Louis to get some perspective:

The Gateway Arch reflects the role of St. Louis in the opening up of the West (Thomas Jefferson). St. Louis is also famous for the Dred Scott Trial (Dred and Hariette Dred) where the Dred couple filed in court for their freedom.

and a bite to eat at Angelo’s taverna

Then we headed on our way toward, Missouri (Cuba) and stayed in this quaint hotel (The Wagon Wheel Hotel

And ate at this wonderful country restaurant Missouri Hick Bar-B-Q right beside the Wagon Wheel hotel.

Don’t miss this little outpost store, not far from the Wagon Wheel hotel and the “biggest Rocking Chair in the world.”


Look at this cute little fire hydrant we spotted in a small Kansas town on our way as well as the cars that inspired the movie by the same name: Cars

Sometimes we hit a few obstacles:

But we were soon back on the road again.-


And onwards toward Oklahoma

Stop in and visit the Will Rogers Memorial & Museum (Claremore). Will Rogers was an Oklahoma country boy (of partly Cherokee heritage) who began actin in Wild West shows and then later, Vaudeville and ultimately Broadway. Rogers was also a nationally known writer (social moral issues of the day).


Here is another quaint restaurant: Pedro’s Bar and Grill

on our way into Texas

They say everything is big in Texas – this is the biggest cross I have ever seen –

In Groom, Texas, you will find this gem measuring 190 feet and reputed to be the tallest cross in the Northern Hemisphere.

And there are wide open spaces for growing anything (Cadillac Ranch)

Cadillac Ranch is a living, dynamic artwork /sculpture that invites participation (bring your spray paint). It has a bit of a quirky past, but essentially represents the “Golden Age” of the American automobile. You can find this gem just west of Amarillo, Texas on Old Route 66.

The Leaning Tower of – Texas?

Also in Groom, Texas

New Mexico

And we are off.. again.. en route for New Mexico…

And Albuquerque

Albuquerque is located on the upper edges of the Chihuahuan Desert in one of the highest elevated regions in the United States. The Old Historic Town was founded in 1706 by Spanish families. The brown adobe architecture is a Pueblo-Spanish style.


Now to cross the Continental Divide…. on the way to Arizona

Sometimes you can be on the wrong side, but don’t worry, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel –  on our way to Arizona.

Take a step back in time as you drive into Oatman, Arizona, an old mining ghost town that still continues to thrive. Come to walk among the donkeys that are regulars around town.


Here is what we encountered on our way into Oatman

Meteor Crater

This meteor crater is the world’s best-preserved meteor impact site. It is located along Route 66 in Northern Arizona, near Winslow. The crater is nearly one mile wide and 550 feet deep.

Grand Canyon –

No need for a bio on the Grand Canyon. It is simply massive and very beautiful.


Along Route 66, don’t miss the Bagdad Café – made famous by the movie of the same name.

In Newberry Springs, California, on Old Route 66, you will find the Bagdad Café – in the middle of nowhere, but somewhere in the Mojave Desert. There is not much of anything for miles around – just sand and heat and dust.

Sometimes along this lonely road, you may find it necessary to rethink your path-

But, you will know you are almost there when –

And, all of a sudden –  you have made it!!


Now to explore the destination –


A little bit of Los Angeles

And a little fun at Universal Studios –

and me with a couple of my buddies –


Cheers to Route 66

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My Personality and Me

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Are we who we are because of our personality or do we have our personality because of who we are? It’s like the chicken and the egg – which is the reason for which and what comes first?  We can equally argue that we are not our personality; it does not define who we are. Most people do not like to be categorized, though sometimes it can be fun to know our personality traits to see why we make the decisions we do in the way we make them or why we interact in a certain with others or in certain situations. Sometimes we even hide behind our personalities to avoid unpleasant tasks or to explain why we do or don’t do something.

Of course, we are not our personality. That is, personality alone does not define who we are. Humans are far too complex for such a limited categorization and our emotions, backgrounds and even our health and lifestyle all have enormous influence. One day we can be outgoing, on top of our game and quick with decisions and the next day we may not be able to make a single decision and not interested in talking to anyone.  Our personality certainly is part of who we are and a general framework for how we view and interact with the world, and learning more about it can be enlightening and helpful.

There are different versions and explanations about personalities and each one sheds an interesting light on what kind of person we might be according to our personality. I personally like a straightforward and simple explanation. The one that I like best is found in Personality Plus, by Florence Littauer. This is a simple book that takes us through four different personalities.

The Choleric

The Choleric is described as the ‘born Leader’, the one who is  “strong-willed” as a child always looking for ways to move forward and take over. He is never happy playing second fiddle to anyone. He is compulsive and quick to act, often shooting first and aiming second. These are the people who, when they come into your home, will reset the table and repolish the utensils; they will close any open cupboards and tell you how your home should be organized. They don’t ask, they just do. Chloerics are very good at making decisions quickly and without much consultation. They have solutions and can solve any problem – often solving other’s problems for them with or without their permission.

The Choleric is usually goal oriented and not people oriented. People often get in the way of his goals and he (the choleric) will be quick to let them know this. He is very good at delegating and breaking down big tasks into small chunks. These chunks are what other people are for (according to the choleric): to get the job done. The Choleric is very good at assessing a situation and determining the course of action. He thrives on opposition and challenge, is fired up by criticism and encouraged by the impossible.

Examples of a Choleric: The Rabbit in Winnie the Pooh, or Thorn in The Lord of the Rings

The Sanguine

The Sanguine has a charming personality. Everyone and everything is a source of wonder and excitement. They see the positive in everyone. One thing is certain, the Sanguine always has fun; he draws people to him, he finds laughter in the smallest and most unlikely situations. For the Sanguine, life is an endless stream of exciting experiences. Everything seems exciting with the Sanguine.

You will be able to spot the Sanguine out in a group; he will be the one speaking the loudest (usually with a captive audience), telling the stories (embellishing the stories) and working up his story to suit the audience. The Sanguine is happiest being the life of the party surrounded by interested admirers. He can be dramatic and hilarious. The Sanguines are the people you want to have as masters of ceremony, club presidents, greeters, and teachers. The Sanguine is always curious – even about other’s conversations or about what people say about him. He likes to know what everyone is doing and feels left out if he is not informed.

Example of Sanguines: Tigger in Winnie the Pooh

The Melancholic

The Melancholic is the polar opposite of the Sanguine; he is an introvert who enjoys his own company even it if it is not a happy company. He is, in his mind, unique and the only one (or one of the few in the world) who is right; everyone else is wrong and doesn’t understand. Playing games is not for the Melancholic; these are time wasters and pointless. Nothing should be done just for the fun of it.

The Melancholic personality tends to be on the moody side -way get excited about life since life is to be taken seriously? It can be a bit touchy trying to find out how he is wired. He can be at loggerheads with both the Choleric and the Sanguine since they tend to say what is on their mind and he (the Melancholic) thinks they are being insensitive and not considerate of his feelings. He fails to understand the excitement of the Sanguine, nor the driving energy of the Choleric and both intimidate him. But, if you want something done right, in perfect order with plenty of graphs and research to back it up, the Melancholy is the person to call.

Example of the Melancholic: Sheldon in The Big Bang Theory

The Phlegmatic

The Phlegmatic is the easy-going personality, happy to be where they are and flexible enough to adapt to anyone’s plans. This personality seems to walk down the road of life and stay away from all conflict and decisions. Excess and extremes are not for the Phlegmatic. He is calm, in control, peaceful, and accepting of others. He enjoys living in the present and doesn’t worry too much about the future. He would rather not cause any trouble and not give his opinion on anything – whatever is good for others is good for him.

In an emergency, the Phlegmatic is the one you want to have around. The Choleric may be bark orders (even if he doesn’t know what he is doing), the Sanguine may scream in sheer panic and the Melancholic may sink into a hole of despair. But the Phlegmatic will quietly assess the situation, consider what to do and calmly go ahead and take care of the situation.

The Phlegmatic is also an incorrigible procrastinator. Don’t count on him to make decisions quickly or ever. He does not enjoy others thinking for him or making decisions in his place and his quiet stubborn streak will cause him to dig in his heels and quietly rebel.

Example of a Phlegmatic: Bilbo Baggins in The Hobbit

The Takeaway

While some may fit into one of these categories quite easily, most of us fall into two or more of them. We find that we are equally one and the other of two of the personalities. Some may find that they are a people-loving and excitable Choleric -Sanguine. Others may find that they share both the detailed Melancholic tendencies as well as the low key stubborn tendencies of the Phlegmatic. Sometimes, depending on circumstances, we can be completely different from what we were the day before. And, finally, we all can be good actors and put on a show when we need to. We can be bouncy for a time or calm for a time if we need to. Knowing the four personalities is really an interesting tool that we can use to help us understand our selves and others.


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Discover Amazing Golden Milk

These days, it’s all about the turmeric in health circles. It is making waves in scientific studies and anecdotal experience.  Golden Milk, made with turmeric, is becoming very popular. And the taste is awesome.  It gives a new definition to the “Hot Toddy.” I think it is safe to say that if you haven’t tried Golden Milk yet, you have been missing out.

So what is Golden Milk? It is an ancient beverage, typically consumed warm, from Ayurvedic medicine and is known for its delicious taste and numerous therapeutic, health benefits.  In Ayurvedic tradition, this drink was taken to fight off colds, congestion, sore throats and headaches. Beginning in India, thousands of years ago, the drink has made its way across the world and now the main component, turmeric (curcumin), is being studied for these and other health benefits. Some other benefits attributed to turmeric are:

  • blood purifier
  • antibacterial
  • antiinflammatory
  • antioxidant
  • aids in digestion
  • aids in cancer therapies such as radiation
  • aids in brain function


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Here are the main ingredients you will want to have in your Golden Milk:

Coconut oil –  makes it easier (the fats) for our bodies to absorb the curcumin in the turmeric root. Curcumin is the main compound we are looking to absorb.

Coconut oil contains healthy saturated fats that satiate as well as protect our brain against degenerative diseases.

Black pepper – The piperine in black pepper seems to be able to activate the curcumin to make it more bioavailable to our bodies. It makes the curcumin more potent.

Turmeric– either fresh grated or raw ground turmeric powder. I prefer the ground turmeric powder because it is easier to mix and I can keep it for longer. Tumeric is an anti-inflammatory root, similar to ginger root.

Coconut milk- the original recipe used milk, but I think coconut milk tastes better and is healthier

Honey -.Raw honey is best because of the enzymes contained in raw honey. Honey also has antibacterial properties.

Other ingredients– you can also add cinnamon or ginger to add more spice, some might want to add in some ginger as well. Cinimmon has anti-oxidants and helps to regulate blood sugar. Ginger has anti-inflammatory properties. It will also help to take away some of the bitterness of the turmeric root.


Add all ingredients except the (raw) honey to a saucepan and bring to a boil over medium heat. Stir frequently.

Boil for about 10 min. until the mixture is smooth and homogenous. Boiling also takes away some of the bitter taste of the turmeric.

After 10 min; remove the saucepan from the burner and cool for 10-15 min.

Add the raw honey and mix thoroughly. The honey will give the mixture a cohesive paste texture as well as add a pleasant taste.

Put the paste into a glass jar and store in the refrigerator. It should keep well for a minimum of 2-3 weeks.

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Some Ways to Use Golden Paste

  • in smoothies
  • as a topping for pumpkin pie
  • in coffee
  • in Golden milk
  • as a broth (omit the raw honey)
  • in a salad dressing
  • in soups (omit the raw honey)

Other Uses

  • as a face mask
  • as a poultice for inflamed skin or sprains
  • as a whitening toothpaste (omit the raw honey and add baking soda and coconut oil)
  • as a skin soother for sunburns and poison ivy breakout (mix with aloe vera gel)


There is no reason not to try golden milk or paste and add to your daily routine. With such outstanding health benefits and versatility, it merits becoming a staple in every home. From a warming drink in the evening to a tooth whitening paste, there is something for everyone. Why not give it a try?

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Quebec City – My City – Ma Ville

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So In Love With My City

What is not to love about beautiful Quebec City?  It is a city that meshes the charm and drama of the 1600s with the modern landscapes and lifestyle of the 21st century. It is a city where cannons and fortress walls meet cafés and shoe shops. Perched high on a cape overlooking the majestic St Lawrence River, upstream and down, and the city of Lévis on the opposite shore, the city of Quebec literally commands respect.

Let’s Begin Our Tour: The Upper Town

A walking tour around the city will bring you up and down steep hills and along twisting streets between the upper and lower towns. Of course, you can always go up and down on the funiculaire, if you don’t fancy going up and down the Breakneck Stairs. Driving around the old city can be a bit tricky if you are not used to a city full of one-way streets. Parking is not easy either. It is best to do the city on foot if you are able.

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Two stone archway gates serve as entrances to the city: Port St. Louis and Port St. Jean, the first leading down St. Louis Street lined with restaurants to the emblem of the city: The Chateau Frontenac and the second leading into St. Jean street area lined with shops. Just outside the gate is the Carré d’Youville where there is an outdoor skating rink in the winter and any number of activities (outdoor cinema, concerts) during the summer. This is also the location of the Le Capital theatre ( a picturesque old cabaret-style theatre) as well as the more modern Montcalm theatre.

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And Now for the Lower Town

Going down to the lower town, which you can access either by taking the funiculaire or by going down all the stairs to the bottom, you will find the cradle of North America as defined and settled by the French colonists. Here you will find narrow cobbled streets reminiscent of the 1600s. Right in the center of this lower town is Place Royal, which was the social and business center of the original city of Quebec. This is a town square surrounded by 17th- century houses/buildings. It was here that everything happened from the market to politics to public reprimands.

Meet Samuel de Champlain

Every August this town square hosts a colonial market complete with townspeople dressed in 1600s French-style dress. Samuel de Champlain is a regular character around town. You will also meet the locals: the women at the market, the town priest, the fur trappers, the native Americans ( and others) as well as have an opportunity to become involved in the local “gossip” of the town. Walking through the square and the neighboring streets, you will likely meet up with Samuel de Champlain. He is certainly hard to miss dressed in a royal blue aristocratic ensemble. Here is your chance to ask him all the questions you want.

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La Rue la Petite Champlain

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At the bottom of the Breakneck Stairs, you will find yourself on the historic rue de la Petite Champlain, a beautiful, romantic street lined with shops that promote local designers and artisans (clothing, jewelry, shoes, and boots, and much more). There are locally known restaurants such as Le Lapin Sauté (“off the wall rabbit”)  and Le Cochon Dingue (“The Crazy Pig”) to enjoy a meal. Next to the Lapin Sauté is a little park with bench swings and Muskoka chairs, to relax in and take in the activity and music of street musicians. This street is my absolute favorite street in the city. It is energizing and inspiring and filled with activity. The shops are decorated with floral arrangements. And, at Christmas time, this beautiful street becomes even more spectacular with the festive lights and decorations illuminating the snow of the season.

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Let’s Head Over to the Market

Down a bit from Place Royal along Blvd. Champlain ( a road that runs alongside the St. Lawrence River) is the port where you can often see cruise ships docked, marina activities and summer concerts and shows. If you go along this street towards the North East you will go past the art galleries and restaurants and come to the local farmer’s market near the marina-great place to stock up on local food and artisanal culinary creations. Just a little bit further and you will see our beautifully designed train station (La Gare de Train), keeping in line with the architecture of the city.

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Here Ends the Tour

Here is the end of our tour. I hope you enjoyed your virtual time in Quebec City.  It truly is a city to put on your bucket list of places to see. You may end up staying a while.  I hope that you will come by to visit our beautiful city, a city of charm, historical drama, excellent cuisine for every taste and budget, as well as ample opportunities to work off the calories.

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Have a great day!

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Overcoming Fear and Leaving the Comfort Zone

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We All Have Our Fears and Doubts

Should we go for that new job?  Should we change jobs and take the chance on a new one?  Are we good enough to be able to compete? What will our family or our friends say? Maybe they will discourage us and say that we don’t have what it takes. Maybe we fear that we will fail or worse, that we will succeed and then what?  Our school experience may have taught us that if we don’t measure up, it is no use trying and we should just stick to what we are able to do.

I have to say that I was this way for a long time. I would have intermittent sparks of “I can do this” and then “reality” would bring me down to a level playing ground and I would settle down to doing regular, normal things, living according to (my and others’) expectations.  In fact, I had often dreamed of writing and speaking in front of audiences. This very blog was supposed to have been started about 10 years ago, but I just put it off because I believed that I was not technologically savvy enough to get it off the ground.  But here I am, 10 years later, doing what I always believed I could do.

Fear Is So Debilitating

Fear can paralyze us and doubt, which is a family member of fear, literally convinces us to stay where we are. How many times in our lives do we allow fear to keep us from doing what we would really love to do, from something that we would be so passionate about?

And fear is not even real; Fear is F.E.A.RFalse evidence appearing real. What we imagine is an obstacle doesn’t actually exist, except in our imagination.

Our Comfort Zone Is Too Comfortable

Apathy:  A common human tendency to seek a comfort zone in which nothing ever changes. It is our natural human tendency to look for a spot that is comfortable. Or maybe we could, alternatively, call it “the familiar zone“, since it isn’t really always that comfortable. The familiarity makes it safe, even if it may not necessarily be comfortable.

Living in the comfort zone may feel good, familiar and routine, but it can actually stop you from living the life you would really like to live. We harbor doubts of not being good enough, brave enough or strong enough (mentally or physically) to step out and do what we would really like to do or what we have always imagined ourselves doing…. one day. What if we fail? What if it doesn’t work out? What if we spend that investment money on a new venture and it falls through? What if, after trying to do something different, it just doesn’t work?

Opportunities Will Pass Us By

Living in the comfort zone means that we see the opportunities (sometimes) and let them pass us by. It means that we choose not to take the shots in life for fear of missing the goal. Wayne Gretzky (famously) said:

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Well, that is certainly true. If you never try, you never do and if you never do then you never accomplish.

The Story of Bob Smith

There was once a man who went to heaven and noticed a distinguished gentleman walking around. He asked one of the angels who he was.

“Why that’s Bob Smith, the greatest General who ever lived.”

The man entering heaven said, “Well, I know my history, I like to think and I don’t remember anything about a General named Bob Smith.”

The angel clarified: “Bob Smith would have been the greatest General whoever lived if  he had decided to serve in the military.”

This “General” had let fears and his comfort hold him back from doing something amazing in his life.

We Can Not Move Forward Without Changing

If we always do the same things in the same way as we have always done them, then we will simply get more of the same things. Nothing will change and nothing will improve.

So, What Can We Do?

(1)  We can start by getting comfortable with the truth

What does that mean? Well, it means (to borrow a sports analogy) we need to get comfortable checking the scoreboard. So if we think we are doing okay, it is a good idea to check and see what the reality is. If the scoreboard doesn’t say you are doing well, probably there are some things to fix or change. We can’t ignore the facts. We can either rationalize the scoreboard (of our life) away or we can reason with the scoreboard.  We can make excuses for why we are where we are or we can try to figure out why we have the results we have and try to change something. Either way, the scoreboard will keep score.

So, this first one is a bit tough because it means looking at ourselves in the mirror and asking tough questions.

“The truth will set you free, but only after it makes you mad.

(2)  We can remember that we always have a choice

In everything we do, we always have a choice and, by not making a choice, we are, in fact, making a choice.   We can respond to what is happening to us, to our life circumstances. We can decide to something different today or tomorrow.

We have and make choices (big and small) every day of our lives. The question is, are we making good choices or bad choices?  Also, the gap between the accumulation of bad choices over time and an accumulation of good choices over time can be absolutely dramatic. Our lives can take drastically different paths based on the choices we make over time.

Two individuals can start by having similar life circumstances and then, 10 years down the road, their lives may be dramatically different simply because of the choices they chose to make. Our thoughts – the way we think – can have a profound effect on the choices we make and on the outcome of our life circumstances.

We have the choice over our attitude.

We can choose to see the good in every situation. Is the glass half full or is it half empty? The circumstance of life will always be a mixture of good and bad. Let’s sift through and find the good parts.

We have the choice to act

We are constantly bombarded with negative thoughts like weeds in a garden. We can choose to listen to and affirm them or we can choose to stop them in their tracks and yank them out of our mind. We can be proactive at guarding our mind. And, when we get rid of bad thoughts, we need to replace them with good thoughts. Like the garden, if we pull out all the weeds, but don’t do anything else (proactively),  then more new weeds will grow in the place of the old weeds. We need to plant something where the weeds were, then it is less likely that weeds will grow there. So, we need to yank out the negative thoughts and plant new positive information in.

( 3) We need to get  busy intentionally (not just busy)

How effective is our busyness?  We can be very busy and actually not get very much done or accomplish anything important. if we are not getting the results we want in our life, we have to get busy at being proactive and not just busy at doing what we have always done. We need to look at the scoreboard (of our life), examine it, figure out what is not working and make a game plan. What do we need to know to get better in these areas where we are not doing so well?  There is always something that we can improve, work on.

(4) We need to hold ourselves accountable

We can so easily trick ourselves into believing that we have done all that is necessary, that there is nothing to fix or improve upon.  We can be so naive (when we listen to ourselves). Competition in anything, be it sports or in the job market) will soon weed out those of us who are not on top of our game. So, it helps to hold ourselves accountable to someone else who can hold up a bar to show what we are trying to reach for. As the saying goes:

A line doesn’t know it’s crooked until it is held up to a straight line.

We really don”t know how we measure up until there is a measurement ( a scoreboard),. the scoreboard is not just for competition, but for all aspects of our lives. How do we measure up to how we would like to be? If we want to be something tomorrow that we are not today, we need to reach in and harness the potential inside of us.


What Could You Do if You Decided to Step Out?

I think Dr. Seuss expressed it best. Here is an excerpt from “Oh The Places You’ll Go“. I’ll let Dr. Seuss have the last word:


Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You’re on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go.

You’ll look up and down streets. Look ’em over with care.
About some, you will say, “I don’t choose to go there.”
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you’re too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any
you’ll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you’ll head straight out of town.

It’s opener there
in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.

And then things start to happen,
don’t worry. Don’t stew.
Just go right along.
You’ll start happening too.

Have a great day!

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