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Life Is A Baseball Game

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Baseball is a lot like life. It’s a day to day existence, full of ups and downs. You make the most of your opportunities in baseball as you do in life.   – Ernie Harwell

We all know that life is not easy and many of us were not given the rules growing up. Many of us go through life hitting and missing. Sometimes we make it to first base or even a home run and other times we just keep striking out. Sometimes we think we are doing ok and life is good, but then a curveball gets thrown at us that we didn’t see coming and we think “Wow, where did that come from?”

So much of life is our perspective on things and circumstances; it’s how we see things through our personal lenses. Our lenses may be dusty and need some cleaning. We may think that others have it good, but we are living in a funk. When we look in the mirror, who do we see? Do we see someone who is positive, and moving forward or are we saddened or angry at what we see? Maybe we wonder what life is all about and what our purpose really is here.

Every day is a new opportunity. You can build on yesterday’s success or put its failures behind and start over again. That’s the way life is, with a new game every day, and that’s the way baseball is.  – Bob Feller

The following analogy is inspired by a leadership talk given by leadership speaker Jerry Harteig.

The Game of Baseball

There is an order to baseball. The pitcher throws the ball and the batter needs to try to hit the ball outfield so that he can get to first base and second, third and finally,  home base. What the hitter doesn’t do is run to 3rd base and back to 2nd or 1st base. The objective is to take each base in order. So how is life like baseball?

First Base = The Foundation: who we are, our character

Second Base = Our Relationships: Family, friends, community

Third Base = Our Career, our professional and academic spheres

Home Base = Our purpose

First Base

In life, who we are, our character, our values, our priorities make up our foundation. We win from within. Everything we do spreads out from who we are and what we believe and value. Character is the foundation and nothing will ever rise higher than our character in life. In baseball, although the players may play over a hundred games in a season, they spend far more time preparing and training than they do playing the game. Some players, unfortunately, take short cuts (or think they are taking short cuts), but really there are no short cuts in life.

We can not get to second base or do very well there if we have not prepared first base well. If second base is relationships, then the health of our relationship is dependant on the strength of our character. We always need to play by the rules – be honest and trustworthy. Before we can influence others in a positive way, we must first be able to lead ourselves. A person’s character can look like a sinkhole – you can’t see the underneath, the limestone, instability of the soil. the one day, out of the blue, a sinkhole opens up because the foundation wasn’t solid.

Second Base

We need relationships, we depend on them, but we can’t go about things backward. Some people put all their energy and focus into their work or other activities and then realize later that they had neglected second base: relationships. The game of baseball is clear: we go to second base before third base. We should develop and prioritize relationships over outside endeavors, over careers and business. It is much better to follow the correct order than to have to go back and do damage control.

Some may say that they have no idea how to build and maintain relationships in any sphere because they never learned how or because their past was so disastrous or traumatic. This may be true, but the past is the past and this is now. We are responsible for what we do now. None of us is perfect and we all have emotional scars. But we can learn new information and begin new ways of relating. All relationships are built on trust and truth so, we can start there. Two rules we can follow are:

  • Value others more than ourselves
  • Forgive what we can’t forget

Third Base

Third base in life is all about what we do when we are out in the world. It is the application of our character, values, and beliefs in professional, academic or social settings.  Who are we at work or at school? Do our actions line up with who we say we are? Do we have integrity? Do we do what we say we will do? Are we dependable? Can our employers, colleagues, and customers count on us to deliver? Are we honest? Are we a team player? Do we build up, rather than tear down? All of these questions speak to our competence or performance.

Whatever we do in our lives will be reflected in our performance. It will be reflected in how people view us and in the rewards or promotions we receive.  Any cracks in character, like cracks in cement, will be exposed eventually. So how can we do well at third base?

  • Do more than is expected every day. If you do the minimum, you will get the minimum.
  • Do something every day to add value or expand your skills
  • Seek solutions rather than fixate on the problems
  • Learn new skills
  • Fail and learn to love it
  • Don’t sit on today’s successes; tomorrow is a new day
  • Bring your talent to the table

Other Rules in Baseball: The Lines

In baseball, there are boundary lines such as the foul lines. These are clearly delineated and going out of bounds brings a penalty. In life, we have the opportunity to draw the lines because we have the pencil. But the question is, who is influencing the lines? Are the lines influenced by the media, by our society, by our schools and other educational institutions, or by whom we spend our time around? Who is holding the pencil?

Of course, there are some solid lines that we follow, like laws, for instance. And other lines are dotted lines, like lines we draw for ourselves, but not for others. But the lines we draw are boundary lines to keep us in and other things out. Stepping outside these foul lines bring consequences for us and often others. So if we are going to play the game of life (or baseball), we need to have foul lines and respect them in order to increase our chances of winning.

If you have the right mental attitude, nothing can stop you from achieving your baseball goals. – Felicity Luckey

Home Base

In baseball, the goal is to get as many players to home base as possible. that is the destination and the reason for the game. Likewise, in life, we need a goal or a reason. Otherwise, we are just going through each day randomly, hoping each day will be a good day. But what are we working toward? What is the impact we would like to have? What is the reason for all of our activity? Having a bigger purpose than just getting through life should be the reason and the goal. When we have a clear idea of our purpose or what we are trying to accomplish, then we can line up all our activity with this vision.

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How to Stop Worrying About What People Think of You

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“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”—Lao Tzu

We are all by nature desirous of being accepted, approved and appreciated (Les Giblin – How to Have Power and Confidence in Dealing with People). We all want people to like us and we all hope that what we do or say will be pleasing. There is nothing intrinsically wrong with feeling this way. However, we need to be careful not to allow this natural tendency to become the sole reason we do what we do or control our decisions. Added to this natural desire is the fear of rejection if we are not liked or if we displease people. We get caught in a trap of wanting to live authentically and feeling guilty for not living according to expectations of others.

For some of us, there is a constant fear of what other people will think that many or even all of our decisions are made in order to placate others or being different. Some people are deathly afraid of thinking or doing things in opposition to everyone else. They are so afraid of loss (maybe of a job, relationships or opportunities) because of displeasing someone that they cave in and make decisions that run counter to what they would really like to do. Sometimes this focus on what other people think can even sabotage our future opportunities and rob us of our dreams.

We know that we shouldn’t care about what other people think, but, somehow we continue to care. Somehow we continue to let them affect our decisions and influence the way we think. So how can we get out of this unproductive behavior? First, it is good to see how it hinders us and then adopt some strategies for breaking out.

What Worrying About What Other People Think Will Do

  • It will sabotage your potential (talents, beliefs, goals, values and well being)
  • It will make you want to play it safe and cause  you to remain fearful
  • It will keep you in the mindset of fearing ridicule and rejection
  • It will prevent you from taking risks
  • It will keep you from being authentic
  • It will not solve your problems and will probably create new ones
  • It will keep you in a people-pleasing cycle
  • It will disempower you

How to Stop

  1. Concentrate on the Present

The present is all we have and really all that matters. When we concentrate on what is happening right now, what we are doing now, then it is hard to think about what other people might be thinking about us. We shouldn’t try to borrow problems that might not even exist. And when we spend our time and energy on other people who probably aren’t even thinking about us, we miss out on the blessings of the present moment.

2. Remind Yourself that Life Is  Short

We know this is true, but very often we get so caught up in busyness and distractions that we forget that we only have one life and that we need to live it well. We simply do not have time to be wasting on worrying about anything. When we care too much about the opinions of others, we are giving control of our life over to them, We are disempowering ourselves. Our time, our life is so precious and we need to live it as we choose and according to our vision.  We do to know how long we have so we need to make it count.

3. Remember that You  Are The Best Expert on Yourself

No other person is an expert on your life but you. What other people think you should do or think about you is completely irrelevant; they are not living your life. You have your own experience,  you know what your hopes and dreams are and what you like and don’t like. Does it really matter what other people think of how you live your life?  And more importantly, it’s it really any of their business?  On the same note, what others may or may not think about you is none of your business either.

4. Keep the Main Thing The Main Thing

This advice from Stephen Covey in Seven Habits of Highly Effective People is a very important thing to do. When we have a clear focus or vision, when we have clear priorities and guiding values and beliefs, we have no need to care what other people think and we don’t allow them to distract us or by changing our focus. The main thing is the main thing and everything else is a useless distraction. Keep your eyes on the big picture, the long term goals and you won’t worry about the opinions of others.

5. Keep A Healthy Perspective

It is hard to have a clear perspective when you are in the middle of a storm. When you have little to no clarity of vision, values, and beliefs, it is easy to get tossed around by the values and beliefs around you. People will always have opinions and viewpoints based on their own experience, beliefs, and values, which may or may not fit you or your life. One way to have perspective is to imagine what I like to call the “helicopter perspective” Try to visualize everything from thousands of feet above and see if this changes how you see things.

6. Stop Overanalyzing

Overanalyzing is just the action of ruminating over and over. There is nothing positive or productive about analyzing every possible angle. This behavior can lead you down a  bottomless rabbit hole and may even cause you to attribute negative intentions to other people. It could drive you bat crazy as you micro-analyze every action, word, facial expression or decision of other people. And it will most likely give you a very blurry image of reality. Just move on and take everything with a grain of salt.

7. Know that Most People Aren’t  Actually Thinking About You

It is crazy how our imaginations work overtime to create scenarios that don’t even exist. The reality is that people are thinking only about themselves most of the time. We may be thinking that they are analyzing our decisions or behaviors, but, they may actually be thinking of what to make for dinner. And even when they do give us their advice or opinions, these are just based on their own experience and beliefs and may even change. In many cases, they may not even have a vested interest in your life.

8. Remember: You Can’t Please Everyone

If there is one thing that is impossible it is that we can not please everyone. Some people will click with us and others won’t. People will think what they want to think and it is not our job to make them happy or agree with them just to make them happy. Trying to be a people pleaser is a frustrating, futile and energy draining pursuit. It is like spinning our tires trying to move forward. Trying to please people also takes power away from you since it puts what other people think in control of what you will do or say. We should be taking care of ourselves; let others make their own selves happy.

9. Focus On Your Own Goals and Dreams

We only have one life and that one life belongs to us and not others. It is our responsibility to live it in the best way possible. No one should be in the position of controlling or deciding how we will live. Sometimes we feel that just because a person is in a position of authority that they automatically have decision control over our lives, but this is not true. Our goals and dreams belong to us and we decide how our life will play out. By focusing on our goals and dreams, we do not have to be dependant on what others may think about us or wish for us.

The Takeaway

We don’t ever need to care what other people think. It doesn’t matter. Our life is ours to live and it does not belong to others. Don’t give any control over to other people by worrying about their opinions or impressions. You do not need to please anyone or live for others. Most of the time people are not even thinking of us at all.

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Stand Strong And Carry On

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“A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” —Vernon Howard

I don’t know where you are in your life journey or what trials you are going through. I don’t know what opposition you have faced or are currently facing. I don’t know about the countless days and nights that you might have cried yourself to sleep wondering when your ordeal and pain will go away. Perhaps you feel alone in what you are going through. I do not know. But what I do know is that this message is for someone. I do know that someone out there needs encouraging words. Someone needs to hear that there is hope beyond the pain.

Pain and discouragement are lonely trials even when we are surrounded by well-meaning friends and family. The helplessness we feel cuts deep inside and it feels like it will never get better. It may even feel like we have been abandoned by others and left to deal with our hurt alone. Maybe you are facing a serious illness, maybe you have lost a cherished loved one or maybe you are facing betrayal and rejection. Whatever you are going through I would like to offer words of encouragement to you.

You Are Not Alone

Sometimes we may feel alone, but in fact, we are never really alone. There is hope and there are brighter days. I would like to share the hope that I have and what sustains me through each day both good and bad (I am not suggesting that you have to believe as I do). Like everyone, I have had heart crushing trials. I have been in the depths of despair (as the heroine Anne of Green Gables would call it). I have hurt. But, alongside me, I have strength and encouragement. My Hope is Jesus Christ. He has sustained me and brought me through impossible trials. When I thought everything was hopeless, He gave me solutions. and this is what I want to say to you. No matter how desperate or painful your situation, Jesus offers his hand to you, offering to pull you out.

 No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
And every tongue which rises against you in judgment
You shall condemn. Isaiah 54:17 

Be Strong and Courageous

I love the symbolism of the lion. It represents strength and courage. We are also called to be strong and courageous. In fact, the Bible tells us;

“You were not given a spirit of fear, but (one) of power, of love and of sound mind” 2 Timothy 1:7

Life’s circumstances and especially people will try to bring us down and tell us that we are unworthy, unlovable and not good for anything. Some people will heap piles of lies and hurt on top of us in order to crush us. They may use words or they may use physical power. Either way, people who do this are trying to build themselves up by making us small. Crushing life circumstances also can also overpower us. But, in spite of all of this, we are called to be strong and courageous. We were not born to be a victim; we were born to be victorious. This Spirit of power, love and sound mind is the Holy Spirit of Jesus. It is what gives us the strength to fight courageously. Without it, the struggle is much harder.

My dear friend, I am encouraging you to rise up out of the ashes, to put on this armour of strength and know that you can have the greatest warrior on your side. Life may throw flaming arrows of poison at you, but you can have the shield of faith to deflect them. When David (the shepherd boy) was confronting Goliath, it was this very Spirit of strength that enabled him to slay an adversary of formidable size and strength.  This very Spirit was the warrior working for him and this Spirit can strengthen you as well.

I just want to let you know that you don’t have to go it alone and fight in your own strength.

“‘Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,’ says the Lord, who has compassion on you.”

The Power of Love

There is nothing stronger in this world than the power of love. Love is the opposite of fear. Fear cannot withstand the strength of love. Out of fear come all sorts of negative emotions such as hate, anger,  and jealousy, but fear is at the root. Where does love come from?  Love is the very essence of God. It is who he is. Out of Love comes both Truth and Life. Fear has no power in the presence of love. I have seen the power of love operate in the face of fear and hate and seen it overcome what looked like impossible situations.  You probably have as well. It is this power that enables us to look beyond our pain (how we feel) and reach out to do something totally against what we feel like doing. This power also reveals Truth to us. It tears back the curtain of lies and shows us who we are and our true value.

Jesus is love. He gives us Life. His Spirit gives us the strength to love powerfully, both ourselves and others. He is Truth. The world will speak lies about us and try to sabotage our identity and value, but the Truth is power. Once we have encountered Truth, we can never go back to the powerless lies. We can become strong and bold. It is this love, this Truth that gives us the power to shake off the abuse, the sense of helplessness and to know that we can be victorious in our struggles.

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up”.

Keep Rolling On

You have been given this life as a gift. It is yours to enjoy and to share with others. You are here for a reason. You are meant for greater things. God has given you a mission, a calling. No matter what you believe or don’t believe, I encourage you to carry on and walk tall. The gut shots will come because life is full of gut shots, but they can be learning and strengthening experiences rather than defeating calamities. I hope that you know: This too shall pass

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Why Reading Is the Key to Opportunities

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Whenever you read a good book, somewhere in the world a door opens to allow in more light. —Vera Nazarian

You have what it takes. You have the potential. Your dreams are real and your life is for living. So, what holds you back? Is it fear? Is it past experiences? Is it what people have told you?  Now before you think I am just talking about becoming a highly successful business magnate, let me be clear – this message is about what each one of us can do to realize our potential. It is for all of us. It is for those who have dreams of raising a great family, for those who want to start the business of their dreams, for those who want to get the education they didn’t finish get when they were younger and for those want to make changes in their lives. It is for everyone.

In our society (schools and workplaces), people are measured according to their potential (what they think a person can do based on present performance). It is an unfortunate categorization because the reality is that everyone has potential. It is not just for the select go-getters. It is also unfortunate that many people do not realize the potential that is inside of them.  We will always have potential and always more room for improvement. Unlocking our potential may be just a book away.

Reading is important, because if you can read, you can learn anything about everything and everything about anything. —Tomie dePaola

We Were Born to Live, We Were Born to Be Free

Frederick Douglas, a former slave who was deprived of education until his mid-teens, understood potential by the very fact that he was deprived of the opportunity to develop it as a child. On freedom, and education he said:

I didn’t know I was a slave until I found out I couldn’t do what I wanted.

Feedom is a road seldom travelled by the multitude.

Some know the value of education by having it. I know its value by not having it.”

Frederik Douglass’s story is inspiring. He was only first given the opportunity to read in his teens and then the whole world opened up to him. Reading took him out of slavery and into freedom. Through reading, he was able to realize and develop his potential and make an impact around him.

Reading is the single most important thing we can do to get where we want to g and be who we want to be. It is key to having a satisfying career, to having healthy relationships, to being financially secure and even financially free. Reading brings freedom in all areas of our life.

But what do we think of about reading in general? Here are common responses:

  • It is just entertainment
  • It is for passing the time
  • It is boring (and sometimes hard)
  • It is hard to concentrate

These are very typical thoughts about reading. And the statistics on reading are quite telling. The following are American Statistics, but they are probably similar elsewhere:

  • 56% of youth read 10 or more books a year.
  • 50% of American adults can not read a book written at an 8th-grade level
  • 20% of Americans read below the level needed to earn a minimum wage.
  • 6/10 households do not buy a single book in an entire year.
  • 85% of juvenile offenders have reading problems.

Wow!! Those statistics are shocking!  All that potential never allowed to blossom because of lack of reading skills, lack of opportunity to read or disinterest in reading.

It is books that are the key to the wide world; if you can’t do anything else, read all that you can. —Jane Hamilton

Reading Is the Door to Freedom

Frederik Douglass knew first hand the enormous power of ignorance to put wealth into the hands of those who dominate the ignorant. He knew that true freedom starts with an educated and fertile mind and the ability to think critically.

Frederik Douglass was a slave with no access to knowledge or education. Like his fellow slaves, he did not know how much of a slave he was until he learned this through reading. Ignorance brings slavery. Education is the great equalizer; it can transform poverty and change the trajectory of our lives.

For Frederick Douglass, the difference between freedom and slavery was literacy. Because he learned to read, his eyes were opened and he was able to see the reality of slavery and ultimately work with people to fight against it to help free the people.

Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body. —Richard Steele

We Need to Be Teachable

There is a saying that goes like this: when the student is ready the teacher will appear. It is all a matter of desire and attitude. If we do not value the learning possibilities from reading (or find it boring and difficult), we are not ready to benefit from the wealth of knowledge, which can dramatically change our lives, found within the pages.

No teacher (or book) can teach a disinterested student anything. No one who does not read can benefit from the potential found in the pages of a book. And, as we saw from the statistics, there is a direct correlation between reading and money earning potential and living standards.

Attitude is everything and will determine our life path. Our attitude toward reading will make the reading experience pleasant and profitable or it will turn it into a necessary chore. And it is a learned skill. We learn to have a good attitude; we have to choose it and work at it. We may think that reading is: boring, just for entertainment, or just a time filler, but, as long as we hold on to these attitudes toward reading we are, essentially, holding ourselves back from a lot of opportunities to grow and see our lives become transformed.

A person who won’t read has no advantage over one who can’t read. —Mark Twain

Reading Children Need Reading Role Models

Many people view education as a period of life when we go to school and then when that period is done, they stop pursuing education. Many, many adults have never read a book after graduating from high school or college. In fact, only 30% of adults have read an entire book since graduating. It is this view of education that is part of the problem. Not only that, our children see right through us. They hear from us that they should learn to read, but they observe parents who don’t ever read.

Now before you get to thinking it is the parent’s fault for not reading, please know that I understand the difficulties. We no longer live in the world the Frederik Douglass lived in. There is so much competition for our children’s attention. Raising children to be avid readings is a huge challenge, but not one that is insurmountable. It really comes down to the priorities we set and our determination to help children become lifelong learners.

The Takeaway

Reading is a pleasure and a treasure. Opening books to read is like paying yourself in future currency. It is like already planning for the things you will one day do. Opening up books is preparation for having healthy relationships, career opportunities and travel opportunities. There is so much potential found inside the pages of inspiring and transformational books. I hope you have been inspired to take on the challenge of reading books for life.

Have a great day!

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Why You Should Get Serious About Having Fun

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“Choosing to have a good time with your friends instead of a good time with other people is one of the best decisions you can make. Friends are Awesome and they will always be there for you no matter what.” – Author Unknown

Who doesn’t enjoy having fun? There is a saying that says: time flies when we are having fun and it really seems to feel that way. The fun just doesn’t seem to last long enough and before we know it, the time is gone and the fun is over for a while. Of course, we can’t always be having fun – nothing would get done and we probably wouldn’t appreciate the experience since it would become commonplace and ultimately pointless and boring.

Fun has its place and can play important roles in our daily lives. It can make a dull chore more interesting and can motivate us to do more. Fun can break up the seriousness of life’s challenges and even offer solutions. And fun can even be a great teacher and help us to learn in ways that may appear unconventional. Often there is more to fun than simply having fun.

Let’s look at some of the benefits that fun can bring us.

Today was good. Today was fun. Tomorrow is another one. –Dr. Seuss

Benefits of Fun

It Can Make You Smarter

Fun by its very nature stimulates the mind and promotes brain growth. It improves memory and concentrations as well as opens us up to new ideas, concept and ways of doing things. Fun helps us to be more creative and also more flexible in how we think. Reading for pleasure is one example of how an enjoyable activity can help us become “smarter” since reading improves our language skills and other abilities as well. Participating in or doing an activity lout of pure enjoyment can help us to be more creative problem solvers, by giving us the environment we need to process information.

It Can Make You Feel Youthful and Energetic

Fun vitalizes and stress drains. Pent up stress drains our energy and can make us tired, impatient and irritable. Stress also has a negative impact on our hormone levels which need to be in shape to feel energetic. So, this is where fun – play- comes in. It doesn’t matter whether its is work, school or home, we need to play. We need to do activities that are enjoyable and stimulating. Everyone, no matter what his or her age, can benefit from becoming child-like again and letting go of pretences, expectations, obligations and whatever else holds us back in order to just have fun. George Bernard Shaw wrote:

We don’t stop playing because  we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.

It Reduces Stress and Defuses Tense Situations

Play and having fun are great stress relievers and can even help to diffuse those tense situations where you can literally “slice through the air with a knife”.   Think about family tensions or a business meeting where emotions are high, stakes are high and the wrong word or even look could send the situation into a tail spin. Imagine what having a little fun could do, what a well timed joke or story could do. A little bit of laughter, laughing at ourselves can break up the tension. It is quite hard to be irritable with someone who is having a little fun. Imagine how a little joyful laughter could change the mood of the situation. It is so important not to take ourselves, or anything for that matter, too seriously.

It  Builds  Relationships and Strengthens Relationship Bonds

Relationships depend on closeness and interdependence. Fun (play) can strengthen the bonds in our relationships (family, friends, community and work) and build trust. When trust is built up, our support system is also built up. Communication is frequently an area that people struggle with in relationships, but having fun and taking a a less than serious outlook on life can help enormously with communication. When we are having fun, we are naturally more relaxed and more open to the ideas of others as well as more in control of our emotions. Adding a spirit of childlike fun can bring a breath of fresh air to our relationships.

It Helps You to Deal with Problems 

It is hard to find solutions to problems or deal with them when we are locked into them or feel completely overwhelmed by them. We feel so attached to the problem that we can not see it from the outside. But what we really need is a break from problems. Taking a break to just have fun deliberately can be a refreshing way to gain new perspective. We can even turn problem solving in to a game and assign ourselves to a character. Or we can simply give ourselves the permission to take a “vacation” away from our worries and do something that is enjoyable. Just by “getting away” and having fun we can sometimes find new creative solutions that we might not have seen otherwise.  Sometimes problems can even dissipate when we realize that they weren’t so catastrophic after all.

It Clears the Mind

Having fun is a great way to take our mind off of our cares for a bit and clear out all the baggage. It stimulates our brain, increases blood circulations, energizes us and gets us thinking in a different mindset. The focus is enjoyment and the result is that it quite simply gives us a break. Physical activity is a great way to have fun and increase the blood flow as well. when we are having fun doing what we are doing, whatever that activity may be, we get rid of the negative thinking and emotions to make way for new positive ways of thinking.

It Gives Us a Restorative Break

Having fun gives us a restorative break and helps our body and our mind take preventative measures agains exhaustion and burnout. Resting is good, but so is a change of pace. engaging in fun activities whether in a personal context or a professional context allows us to have breathing space away from pressures. It is like taking a mini-vacation.

I am going to keep having fun every day I have left, because there is no other way of life. You just have to decide whether you are a Tigger or an Eeyore. – Randy Pausch

10 Ideas to Have Fun

  • Dance around the house
  • Grab a good book to read
  • Have a pillow fight
  • Make pizza or bread
  • Go see a comedy movie or play
  • Invite friends over for a themed dinner
  • Take up a new sport
  • Get outside and walk around town
  • Have a karaoke night
  • Make playDoh and have fun creating

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Some Notes On Friendship

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“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”
– C.S. Lewis

Friendship is such a fragile relationship and quite difficult to develop in today’s high tech, disposable world. We tend to be more high-tech than high- touch. We are often far too busy to have time for friendships and even less to maintain them. And it’s often hard to know who to trust; we don’t want to open up to just anyone. Often it is much easier to maintain relationships at a surface level that doesn’t require too much of an effort either in time or emotional energy. There are several reasons why friendship, that is to say, truly lasting friendships are hard to come by.

I wanted to explore friendship through two books that deal with the subject from different perspectives. One is Grown-up girlfriends, by authors Erin Smalley and Carrie Oliver. The second is Resolved  -13 Resolutions for Life by Orrin Woodward. In the first book, the authors discuss various aspects of friendships such as boundaries, communication, conflict, and forgiveness as well as destructive friendships and letting go of friendships. One of the chapters focuses on understanding where friendships fit in terms of their depth or level of intimacy.

“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.”
– Unknown

Three Levels of Friendship

The book, Grown-up Girlfriends, outlines three baskets of friendship or levels of intimacy to evaluate how our friends fit into our life. The authors do not intend for this to be a sorting or triage system, but instead to be a way of understanding the nature of each of our relationships. Essentially it is looking at circles of friendship from the outer circle to the inner circle. Bear in mind, these baskets and their contents can shift as friendships grow, develop, change, deepen or even terminate. All relationships have a lifespan and all require investment and meeting of needs.

Basket #3 Acquaintances

These friends may start off as just a casual interaction such as greeting the person who serves you coffee at the coffee shop each day. You come to know her because you see her every day and you develop a bond based on this interaction. It may also be the person in the grocery store employee that you see week after week. These are friendly regular, but casual friendships. They may come to know you and what you like, such as how you like your coffee or what kinds of products you prefer to buy.

Basket #2 Good Friends or Companions

With these friends in this “basket”, you share common interests and maybe similar viewpoints or values and beliefs. This friendship leaves the scope of the casual interaction seen in the third basket. with these friends, you might go out for coffee or do a sport together based on a shared enthusiasm for that sport. There is definitely a defined reason for this friendship and the bond may last for a certain time and then dissolve or it may develop into a long-term friendship.

Basket # 1  Friends Who Know Everything About You

This basket is your inner circle and is usually very small. These friends not only know your hopes and dreams and share feelings with you, but they also have the permission and freedom to know the good, the bad and the ugly. They know you well. With these friends, we open up more to share our deeper concerns such as our fears and our failures. There is also the freedom to speak the truth and be honest with one another, even if it hurts.

“If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together… there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart… I’ll always be with you.”
– Winnie the Pooh

Friendship: A Deeper Level

In the book Resolved- 13 Resolutions for Life (Chapter 7), the author discusses 8 Principles of true friendship or basket number 1, according to  Grown-Up Girlfriends. This chapter is one of  13 Chapters modeled off the 13 Resolutions of Benjamin Franklin. Here are the eight principles:

True Friends Form around Shared Insights

These friendships go from a level of companionship to a deeper level in which there are love and respect between them. It is a much deeper bond than simply sharing opinions and thoughts over coffee. This not what Aristotle called the two counterfeit friendships, one based on utility (what can you do for me?) and the other based on pleasure or fun (golfing buddies). This friendship has belief and trust.

True Friends Accept One Another

This approval means overlooking the other person’s weakness and shortcomings and accepting him or her just the way they are and valuing them. This level of friendship loves anyway regardless of mistakes, and faults and allows space and freedom for the other person to grow. It is supportive.

True Friends Approve of One Another

Where acceptance means just aking a person as they are, approval goes a step further by giving what the author calls “relationship oxygen”. This fresh air gives a person the freedom to breathe, be himself and open up. Approving means taking the step to allow yourself to be genuinely impressed by the other person and take an interest in what they do or like. It is showing a level of admiration especially traits or abilities that might not be noticed by others.

True Friends Appreciate One Another

Appreciation builds on both acceptance and approval to where the value of the person is highlighted and his uniqueness is communicated to him by way of pointing out all the positive things about him. The focus is on building the person up in a positive way personally and in the presence of others. When we appreciate another person, we are also challenging and encouraging them to grow, to become even a better version of themselves.

True Friends Listen with Empathy

The author points out that it is through listening that we can show acceptance, approval, and appreciation. Listening gives us an opportunity to learn more about another person, to learn about what makes them tick, what brings him joy, what frightens him and what hopes and dreams he may have. Empathetic listening is really listening to be able to share in the other person’s experience. It gives the other person a safe space to open up.

True Friends Celebrate One Another’s Success

When we celebrate another’s successes and victories we are happy for them. We are their cheerleader. We can celebrate with them, admire their achievements without becoming envious of them. True friends do not get caught up in petty jealousy or in begrudging another person for what they have received or achieved. True friends share dreams, hopes as well as struggles and losses. They are in for the good, the bad and the ugly. They are on the mountain tops together and in the trenches.

True Friends Are Trustworthy

Trust comes from being authentic and supportive. It is the practice of maintaining confidence and having one another’s back. Trusts allow both people in friendship to open up about more personal things that they might not otherwise feel comfortable sharing. And trust means not betraying the confidence of the other. It means having their back, but not going behind their back to gossip or speak badly of them.

True Friends are loyal

Loyalty means trustworthiness in the friend’s presence and away from their presence. It stands up for their character, honor, and reputation where it is required, but it doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing with them on all accounts and when they are clearly in the wrong. A loyal friend will address problems and concerns privately and stand by them as a person publicly. And a loyal friend does not jump ship when the going gets tough or when stuff hits the fan. A loyal friend is a stormy weather friend, not just a fairweather friend.

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What It Takes to Be a Leader

Category : Success

“The greatest leader is not necessarily the one who does the greatest things. He is the one that gets the people to do the greatest things.” – Ronald Reagan

Have you noticed the lack of leadership around these days?  Whether it is in government, schools or any organization, it seems that vision is lacking and many do not have a clear idea of where they are going.  I don’t need to remind you (you are already aware) of how much “passing the buck” goes on these days. No one wants to take responsibility, it seems, and accountability plays second fiddle to an attitude of “taking care of self first”.

Confusion, delusion avoidism, escapism are all prominent everywhere. It really doesn’t matter what aspect of society we are talking about. This is not a “blame the government” post since we are all responsible for any government body we vote in. It is not about blaming schools or business or throwing out any accusations against anyone. It is a reflection on the problem and possible solutions.

Who Is the Leader?

First, we need to know what it means to be a leader. Many books have been written the subject with just as many variations. There are three sources I would like to turn to to help with the definition.

John Maxwell

John Maxwell is unarguably the world’s top expert in leadership and has written countless books on the subject. I will talk here about the 5 Levels of Influence, which John Maxwell builds upon one after the other. They are:

  1. Position
  2. Permission
  3. Production
  4. Personal Development
  5. Personhood

Position simply refers to the title a person has such as a boss, a teacher, or a coach. Just being the bearer of a positional title does not necessarily make them a leader. It simply puts the person in a position of authority. The person may certainly have leadership skills, but these are not because of the position he or she holds.

Permission means that the person has been given permission by one or more individuals to lead in a certain capacity. They have agreed that the person is to be the leader. This b person will be followed only as long as he fulfills the expectations the group or individual have of him. For example, In a team project, the team may elect one person in the group to lead the discussion.

Production refers to the leader’s ability to bring about results. When the leader (chosen or positional) brings about results, this increases his level of credibility. Those following have more faith in his ability to lead and get results.

Personal Development refers to the leader taking the initiative to develop his own skills as a person and as a leader to improve in both areas. Followers see a leader who is doing this as someone who is credible and “walks the talk” and someone who is humble and teachable.

Personhood is the top level of the five and refers more to the character of the person rather than his title. This person or a person at this level of influence has shown himself to be concerned with developing himself as a leader and being a credible person worth following. He is an influencer through example.

Jim Collins

Jim Collins talks about 3 factors of leadership:

  1. A Capable Individual
  2. A Contributing Team Member
  3. A Competent Orchestrator

Capable Individual refers to any individual who has core skills and competency, meaning that the potential for leadership is there, but development is necessary.

Contributing Team Member refers to the individual’s ability to not only be a part of a team but to see himself as an active member. This individual understands that any results (good or bad) are dependant on the combined effort of all team members.

A Competent Orchestrator is good at getting teams together and on the same page. He gets all the cats to walk in a straight line, so to speak. The competent orchestrator has a vision and communicates this vision to team members to get everyone working together towards a common goal.

“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.” – John C. Maxwell

Orrin Woodward & Co-author Chris Brady

In their book entitled “Launching a Leadership Revolution“, these authors examine 5 levels of leadership, which are:

  1. Learning
  2. Performing
  3. Leading
  4. Developing Leaders
  5. Developing Leaders Who Develop Leaders

Learning In order for someone to eventually become an effective leader, he or she must go through the learning phase with mentors. No title of authority or “wannabe” leader can ignore this important process (because it is ongoing). A leader who stops learning stops being the leader.

Performing is persevering through obstacles and failures. They go through the struggle, not just to it. They go through the process of dream-struggle-victory. These individuals focus on performance – their own performance, not the performance of others. They take on responsibilities and hold themselves accountable. Performing also means “tweaking” performance and results.

Leading means developing a broader ( and long term) vision. It means having the ability to communicate goals and vision to the group and orchestrate people to embrace the vision and work towards it willingly and together. The leader uses the past to learn from in order to affect the present and lead to an improved tomorrow. Clarity of vision, accountability, humility, teachability, and responsibility are all characteristics of an effective leader.

The effective leader is generous about giving credit to others for contributions and accomplishments and equally willing to accept responsibility for all failures. The effective leader will take the “hit” for the group.

Leaders Developing Leaders has to do with legacy and continuing momentum. It is the ripple effect, which is that when you toss a stone into water, the stone makes a small splash, but the water ripples further and further out into circles. So leaders who develop leaders are developing circles of influence.

It is at these two last levels that the impact we have on those around us begins to be noticeable. We are all in some way a role model for someone else or for others. Some of us are teachers, business leaders, community organizers and many of us are parents and coaches. The ripple effect of our actions and choices spreads out far beyond the circle intended.

“Becoming a leader is synonymous with becoming yourself. It is precisely that simple and it is also that difficult.” – Warren Bennis

But, Am I A Leader?

Whether we realize it or not, we are all leaders to some degree. We also have people leading us, leading our children and leading our countries. We are Impacting people around us for better or for worse. Parents are leaders who are, hopefully, developing effective leaders. That is a huge responsibility. Employers are leading people, influencing them and impacting their lives. We are leaders in our neighborhood and in our larger community. It is not a matter of title, but of influence.

We are not always aware of how much influence we have on those within our close circles and in wider circles. We may think that our actions and our decisions only have a very short reach. The reality is that we are not only impacting the present all around us, but we are also playing an important role in the future. When you think about it, the responsibility is impressive. There is nothing small or insignificant about our contribution.

Effective Leadership – A Solution?

Coming full circle back to the beginning of this post, we can see how having a good understanding of what leadership is and learning how to be an influencer in our own sphere of influence can have a potentially significant impact in the world around us (in our communities, in our  schools, in our business communities, in our government leadership and beyond). If we consider the ripple effect of a stone in water and the ever-expanding water ripples and see our influence the same way, we can begin to see possible solutions to the lack of strong leadership.

The Takeaway

In light of the leadership crisis that is so prevalent around us, I wanted to shed some light on what effective leadership can look like. In today’s world, we give people the authority of leadership (a title), but too often these individuals do not give the impression that they understand what leadership is. Just being in a position of leadership does not make one an effective leader or even a good leader. Leadership is about the heart and not about Braun.

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Overcoming The Goliaths In Your Life

Category : Life Tips

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Giants are not what we think they are. The same qualities that appear to give them strength are often the sources of great weakness.”
Malcolm Gladwell,

Life is full of proverbial mountains and valleys. We all love the mountains, but the valleys can be more than challenging. Sometimes we even create our own mountains and believe that we can not climb them to the top. Sometimes we believe that mountain climbing is for other people who are better climbers, have more skills and confidence. Life is also full of giants, those huge obstacles that come up and oppose us, discourage us and even fall on top of us. “They are so big”, we say, “there is just no way I can beat this”. We see them and want to give up without even trying to fight them.

Let’s look at the story of a giant and a shepherd boy to see what can be learned.

The Goliath and David Story

Goliath was a warrior of the much feared and exceedingly tall Philistine people. David was the youngest son of his father and a shepherd. He was a member of the Israelite nation under the rule of King Saul. In those days nation armies would challenge another by asking for hand-to-hand combat with one of the bravest men of the opposing army and the victor would claim the land for his nation.

It so happens that the Philistine army selected Goliath as the challenger to the Israelite nation. There was no one in the Israelite nation willing to rise up and fight this Goliath. And we can’t blame them – they were giants and terrifying to look at. David, this shepherd boy heard of this challenge as he was bringing food supplies to his brothers and stated that he would go out to fight this challenger. Everyone laughed at him and told him that he was not able. Even the King advised him not to fight. But David explained that he was able to take him on with his sling and that had killed enemies worse than this.

Let’s stop for a minute here to understand what David was saying. Being a slinger meant that a person was able to take a stone, put it in the slingshot, circle it around in the air to give it momentum and then shoot it with unparalleled accuracy. The damage from a slingshot was the equivalent of that of a gun. It was deadly.  So, David knew his craft, he knew he was able to take this giant down and he was certainly not afraid. He had done this many times before. He had the mindset of one who was going to get the job done.

“You can’t concentrate on doing anything if you are thinking, “What’s gonna happen if it doesn’t go right?”
Malcolm Gladwell,

The Giants in Our life

Our Goliaths may not resemble this story, but they can overwhelm us and challenge us. Some of them may be debilitating fear, addictions, health challenges, failures, or crisis. They may appear like mountains of impossibility before us and we may believe that we will never conquer them. But sometimes the strength of our opponent can be its weakness. Remember that a small boat is able to maneuver more easily than a huge tanker.

Sometimes we imagine that these Goliaths are bigger and stronger than we are. We may see them as bigger than they actually are. The reason for this may simply be that we focus on our own weaknesses and powerlessness to overcome. We also look around us and wonder why everyone around us seems to be doing ok. Misinterpreting the power and scope of these “giants” in our lives and underestimating our own ability to find solutions can cause a good deal of unnecessary stress and anxiety.

What Do You Have in Your Artillery?

David the shepherd boy had artillery and he had mastered his skills. He had honed them over and over, killing lions and bears that threatened his sheep. Yes, he had a slingshot, but he was also a master at using it. When challenges came, he was ready to meet them face on.

When challenges come our way, as they will, what do we have in our artillery? What skill sets do we have? What information do we have? Have we prepared to meet challenges in whatever area of our lives that are under attack? Everything is in the preparation. We can arm ourselves with good information and live proactively rather than reactively. Sometimes people will come along and offer us less-than-useful advice – King Saul offered David a sword to fight with, but what was he supposed to do with that since he had never used one? some people will tell us to just “live with it” or conform in some way.

“The individual who says it is not possible should move out of the way of those doing it.” –Tricia Cunningham

Don’t Listen to The Critics

The critics, or what I like to call “the peanut gallery” are not in the battle. they are on the sidelines where they can safely watch and give their opinions. The critics are not the ones who will have to deal with the consequences either. It is very easy to give advice or to flippant remarks about how you won’t be able to do something or about how you should just stop trying, but who needs this kind of advice. It is much better to surround yourself with people who will build you up and encourage you

“…. they were not really afraid. They were just afraid of being afraid.”
Malcolm Gladwell,

5 Lessons from the David and Goliath Story

Rise Above Your Fears

Fear is going to happen. Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the ability to go forward in spite of fear. Was David afraid? Maybe he was. But he also knew what he had to do and was able to walk boldly into the arena. Inactivity or maintaining paralysis out of fear will not make the fear go away and it will not solve the problem. In fact, you need to reduce the size of fear – put it into its proper perspective- and magnify your ability to act anyway.

Size Is Unimportant

Sometimes challenges seem so massive that they overwhelm us. But is size really the issue? It is your ability to overcome, to change how you see the problem and to find solutions that matter more than how impossible or big the problem may seem. A problem is just a situation waiting for a solution. Size is irrelevant. David did not concern himself with how many feet Goliath measured or what his sandal size was. He was focused on getting the job done.

Use What You Have

What is in your artillery? Use what you have and use it to the best of your ability. You may think you don’t have much (money, skills, knowledge, ability), but why not focus on what you do have? Lamenting over what you lack is not going to move your forward. Have a “doesn’t matter” attitude. What did David have? He certainly wasn’t a trained military man,  He didn’t have a massive army and he was very small in comparison. But David had a sling, some stones, and experience using these. He went into battle with what he had.

Have Faith

Without faith that you can overcome, you will not be able to. It is like shooting yourself in the foot before you even try. Belief is crucial to being able to accomplish what you want to do. How many people quit on themselves before even allowing themselves to have some victory. If you don’t believe you can, then, clearly, you believe that you can’t. David was surrounded by cowards. None of them believed it was possible to take this giant down. Even King Saul thought he could use some help and offered armor and a sword. But David didn’t,t take him up on the offer because he already knew he was capable.

Don’t Sell Yourself Short

Which is bigger, the problem or you? Are you not capable of rising to the challenges? If we underestimate ourselves and think of ourselves in a small way, why should we accomplish anything? Don’t fall into the mindset that you can’t or that it is not for you. Just believe and try. Don’t tell yourself that it is not possible. You were not created to have leftovers. The Bible even says:

I can do all things through [aChrist who strengthens me.(Phillipians 4:13)

David had confidence. He knew he would have the victory. He knew his God and he knew the outcome. Whatever challenges you have, raise the standard and don’t back down.

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Your Success Is In What You Do Everyday

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Habits are like rabbits; be careful which ones you choose to develop because habits, like rabbits, quickly multiply.
How many of us have said something similar to the following?
“Tomorrow I’m going to wake up early and start jogging!”  ” I’m going to start eating healthy from now on!”
“Starting on New Year’s Day I am going to begin eating healthier”.
We’ve all done it. We have all planned to make a change and promised ourselves that things are going to be different. We all have good intentions to improve ourselves. Some of us seem to be able to go through with what we say we will do while others have a long grocery list of reasons why they have to stop pursuing the habit they wanted to build. How are some people able to “stick it out” in good habit building? What are they doing differently to be successful and motivated” that the rest of us are not doing?
 

The common belief is that forming a habit can take 21 days. For some, that might be a long time to keep up with that daily intense workout routine (the one they began on New year’s day). But, Is this belief actually true?

You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine. – John C. Maxwell

 

How Long Does It take to Form a New Habit?

In a study done by Phillipa Lally (Health Psychology Research, University College, London) 96 participants were asked to take on the task of adopting a new habit over the course of 12 weeks. The participants pursued new health habits which differed from person to person. Although the study was not perfect, it did reveal that forming a habit most certainly takes longer than 21 days. In fact, it took, on average, 66 days to form a new habit.
 
Clearly, forming new habits will vary from person to person and depend on the type of habit being formed. For example, a new habit of drinking a glass of water each morning might be formed more quickly than doing intense morning workouts every day.
Good habits are the key to all success. – Og Mandino

How Forming Positive Habits Is Beneficial

Good habits build a foundation for life

Any parent and teacher can testify to the fact that good regular study habits and lifestyle habits will help students do well academically. As parents, we drill this information into our children’s. but just as it is pertinent for growing children, good habit forming is essential to building a solid foundation for people of all ages.

Good habits help us to eliminate time wasting

When we have installed a routine of good habits in our life, they become automatic after a while. They also replace what we might be doing: wasting time- because they help us to be focused and more efficient. the more good daily habits we have, the less unfocused activity we will do.

Good habits help us reach our goals

It has been said that we overestimate what we can accomplish in one year and underestimate what we can accomplish in five years. Simple daily habits done consistently over time have a cumulative effect and eventually, they can help us reach the goals we have set.

Good habits help us stay on track

Motivation can only take us so far – until we become unmotivated, that is. It is almost as if motivation has an on-off button. One defeat can discourage us and then we don’t “feel like” doing what we were so motivated to do anymore. Good habits, on the other hand, are integrated into our daily like such that we begin to do them automatically. they are not driven by fickle motivation.

Quick Tips for Forming a New Habit:

Track your progress for success
Be intentional about setting goals for your new habit (discipline). Write down what you want to do. Set your parameters (When?, Where? How? Why?)  Answering these questions can help you to track and measure your progress. Put your new habit into your schedule.  Treat it like anything else you have to do that is important to you.  Finally, keep a log, a journal or some other way of daily measuring your progress.
Create a Process
Have some kind of reminder or trigger that tricks your brain into going into action mode. For example, if your goal is to jog each morning before your coffee, have your jogging clothes out ready and your running shoes at the door.  Go into action mode. Do what you have decided to do. Tell yourself it’s time.
Then, give yourself a reward afterward. Giving a reward is how you can send a message to your brain that this is what you want to do and “here’s why” – I get a REWARD. Help your brain record the idea that this is an activity to be repeated automatically.
Toughen Up Mentally
Don’t sabotage your efforts by listening to your excuses. Speak to yourself and tell yourself that you will not accept excuses. Visualize your success. Actually, create a mind video that you can replay to yourself any time you feel like quitting.  You are in control of your thoughts and decisions.
 Get Around a Group or a Community for Support and Encouragement
Just as Alcohol Anonymous has always succeeded with the group support model, the same is true for developing new habits. Get around people who can encourage you and keep you accountable. A  Community creates belief. The power of association helps turn a new habit into a permanent behavior. Success is yours if you choose.
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