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25 Quotes On the Importance of Saying No

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Are you a people pleaser? Are you the kind of person that friends and acquaintances can always count on to come through for them in a pinch? Are you the one who is always up for whatever is suggested and ready to go on a dime? Maybe being that benevolent, helpful person makes you feel useful, important and valuable. But being that person can also eventually make you feel stressed out, abused, resentful and may even lead to burnout if you are not careful.

Saying no takes strength and guts. For many, it is not easy and almost heart-wrenching to say no to people and opportunities. We all want to be perceived as helpful. We all want to be liked. No one wants to be perceived as somehow rude or selfish for saying no or declining an invitation. After all, we are social beings and we thrive on relationships. We say yes when we want to say no because we don’t want to feel guilty or have our reputation tarnished. Saying no feels, to many of us, like the ultimate social sin. We feel like saying no will somehow ostracize us from our peers.

Here are some quotes to empower you to say no to what seems important to others, but which is not important to your priorities.

(1) “When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.” Paulo Coelho

(2) “Say no to everything, so you can say yes to the one thing.” Richie Norton

(3) “The art of leadership is saying no, not saying yes. It is very easy to say yes.” Tony Blair

(4) “Saying no can be the ultimate self-care.” Claudia Black

(5) “It’s only by saying NO that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” Steve Jobs

(6) “The oldest, shortest words – ‘yes’ and ‘no’ – are those which require the most thought.” Pythagoras

(7) “You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage pleasantly, smilingly, and non-apologetically – to say no to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger yes burning inside.” Stephen Covey

(8) “Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity” W. Clement Stone

(9) “No is a complete sentence. It does not require an explanation to follow. You can truly answer someone’s request with a simple no.” Sharon E. Rainey

(10) “Learn the art of saying no. Don’t lie. Don’t make excuses, don’t over-explain yourself. Just simply decline.” – Unknown

(11) “Don’t say MAYBE if you want to say NO.”Unknown

(12) “Say NO out of strength instead of YES out of weakness.” Unknown

(13) “It takes heart to say no when our heart and brains and guts and most important, pride are yearning to say yes, Practice.” Cole Harmonson

(14) “Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” – Josh Billings

(15) “We must say “no” to treating ourselves, our health, our needs as not as important as someone else’s. We must say “no.”  – Suzette R. Hinton

(16) “Saying No gains you respect. When you say No, the other person may feel disappointed. But ultimately, they will respect you for taking good care of yourself. And most of all, you’ll respect yourself because you are being true to yourself!” – Doreen Virtue

(17) “Just saying yes because you can’t bear the short-term pain of saying no is not going to help you do the work”.  – Seth Godin

(18) “You can say no if that is more truthful than a resentful yes”. – Judith Lasater

(19) “Saying ‘No’ does not always show a lack of generosity and that saying ‘Yes’ is not always a virtue” -Paulo Coelho

(20) “Learn to say no without explaining yourself”. – Anonymous

(21) “Sometimes “No” is the kindest word.” ― Vironika Tugaleva

(22) “Real freedom is saying ‘no’ without giving a reason.”
― Amit Kalantri (Wealth of Words)

(23) “It takes true courage and real humility to say NO or YES!”
― Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

(24) “Learn to say no in situations where saying no can be difficult, where it could mean getting fired. Say no anyway, because it could lead you to greater opportunities”.   – Samuel Dash

(25) “You don’t have to accept things you are not okay with”. – Anonymous

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Why You Should Say No

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No is a complete sentence and so often we forget that. When we don’t want to do something we can simply smile and say no.

Are you a people pleaser? Are you the kind of person that friends and acquaintances can always count on to come through for them in a pinch? Are you the one who is always up for whatever is suggested and ready to go on a dime? Maybe being that benevolent, helpful person makes you feel useful, important and valuable. But being that person can also eventually make you feel stressed out, abused, resentful and may even lead to burnout if you are not careful.

We all want to be perceived as helpful. We all want to be liked. No one wants to be perceived as somehow rude or selfish for saying no or declining an invitation. After all, we are social beings and we thrive on relationships. We say yes when we want to say no because we don’t want to feel guilty or have our reputation tarnished. Saying no feels, to many of us, like the ultimate social sin. We feel like saying no will somehow ostracize us from our peers.

But we are are not superhuman. We have lives to live, jobs to go to, families to raise and spend time with, crisis to manage, bills to pay, and our health to take care of. We all have the same 24 hours a day and 7 days a week to live our lives. We have to make choices and sift through everything. We live by the calendar and by the clock trying to fit everything in.  Yet, in spite of our business and troubles, we say yes more than we should or than is healthy.

Here are the top 10 reasons we avoid saying no:

  1. We want to protect our social relationships
  2. We want to keep up our perceived reputation
  3. We want to avoid confrontation and conflict
  4. We feel guilty for saying no
  5. We genuinely want to help or participate
  6. We fear losing out on an opportunity
  7. We don’t want to disappoint
  8. We feel that saying no is not an option
  9. We have not set healthy boundaries
  10. We have not determined our priorities

We must say “no” to treating ourselves, our health, our needs as not as important as someone else’s. We must say “no.”  – Suzette R. Hinton

How Saying Yes Can Hurt Us

Saying yes to others means we are saying no to ourselves

When we say yes to others we are also handling our time over to them; we are no longer in charge of our time since it is now in someone else’s hands. We have essentially said that what they want us to do with our time is more important than what we want to do with it. Time is a precious resource and we should carefully consider how we want to spend it and with whom we want to spend it.

Saying yes to others can bring about harmful effects to our emotional health

We may initially say yes because we want to help or because of any one of the reasons listed above, but saying yes, especially when we want to say no can hold us captive. Feelings of frustration, resentment, powerlessness, and general unhappiness can result. Too much giving out of ourselves and not enough refilling and reenergizing can also lead to burnout. We may have wanted to act in good faith, protect our relationship circles and not cause any waves, but in the end, it is possible that relationships and our health may become seriously harmed as a result.

Saying yes can lead to loss of control

Saying yes just because we are asked for help or invited somewhere is not a good reason to say yes. If we do so just because then we are not really in control of our decision or the resulting consequences. It is a bit like going to the shopping center and buying clothes simply because there are clothes for sale. Just because the clothes are for sale (or even on sale) does not mean we should or need to buy them. If we do, then we are not in control of our money, are we? In the same way, we need to be in control and feel confirmed in saying yes.

Saying yes takes our focus off our priorities

Not only does saying yes to people take away our control, but it also takes our focus off our priorities. Saying yes to some people for the sake of being asked also means saying no to others (our close relations) that we need to spend more time with. Saying yes to being asked for help or an invitation also means saying no to our need to spend time refreshing ourselves (sleeping, relaxing, thinking). Saying yes to invitations out (for example entertainment) can also mean saying no to our need to budget carefully and reduce our spending. Saying yes when we should say no can violate our priorities.

When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.” Paulo Coelho

Why We Should Say No

Respect from peers

Although some people might at first feel slighted or hurt if we say no to their request, particularly those closes to us, in time most we come to respect our decisions and the boundaries we set by being in charge of our choices. They will see that we are not easily influenced or a “pushover”.  A great many people have difficulty saying no so when they encounter one who is able to do so consistently, they develop an admiration for this ability.

Saying no means we can also say yes 

When we discern when to say no to requests, opportunities and perceived needs, we also open up the opportunity to yes to other things and people. It is liberating to be able to decide for ourselves how we will spend our time (or other resources) and with whom. This freedom takes away any guilt, stress, and frustration since we are fully in charge of our decision.

We have a life too

Our life is ours to live just as others have their lives to live. We can be there for other people, but we do not have to have our lives run by their needs or wants.It is a hard enough job trying to live our own lives and trying to sort ourselves out in all the business and demands of life. Although we are connected to people, we also have to set boundaries to protect our time and other resources.

To protect and respect our boundaries

Our boundaries include physical, emotional, relational and time boundaries. It is our responsibility and privilege to protect them and we protect them by respecting them ourselves and by not allowing others to override them. Saying no is a clear and effective way to give people the message that we know our limits and that we stand by them.

We don’t need a reason

Actually, we don’t. We are under no obligation to defend our reasons or explain or justify to anyone. Now, of course, I am not suggesting that we come across as rude or abrasive- that would defeat the purpose. I simply mean that we do not have to have a reason for our decision and we do not owe an explanation.  We can quite simply say “No, thank you” and leave it at that. And our no should be a no and not a maybe or a no that turns into a yes.

How To Say No Effectively

It is never easy to say no and often our no is met with resistance, manipulation or pressure of some kind. Sometimes our no is respected and honored, but not always. People are people and they have wants and pressing needs- things to be done, people to see and places to go. So how can we get good at saying no?

Inc.com suggests 7 effective ways that we can do this in their article; 7 Tips for Saying No Effectively.

  1. Say it – don’t stall, don’t delay
  2. Be assertive and courteous
  3. Understand people’s tactics
  4. Set boundaries
  5. Relay the question back on to the asker’s shoulders
  6. Stand firm – no means no
  7. Your needs first

So, there you have it. Learning to say no is a healthy skill to develop. It will come in handy many times and save you time (and give you back your time), stress, energy, and frustration. It will also build your confidence and empower you to live life on your terms and not be at the beck and call of unimportant emergencies or must-do-now scenarios.

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25 Upbeat Positivity Quotes

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We all need some positive thoughts in our day to inspire us. Here’s a little splash of sunshine for your day: I hope you find these quotes brighten your day.

(1) “Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.” – Zig Ziglar

(2) Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” – Hele Keller

(3) “Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.”  – Willie Nelson

(4) “Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn’t know you left open.” 
– John Barrymore

(5) “Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power.”
– William James

(6) “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
– Mark Twain

(7) I’m a very positive thinker, and I think that is what helps me the most in difficult moments.”
– Roger Federer

(8) “Virtually nothing is impossible in this world if you just put your mind to it and maintain a positive attitude.”
– Lou Holtz

(9) “Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”
– John Wooden

(10) When you are enthusiastic about what you do, you feel this positive energy. It’s very simple.”
– Paulo Coelho

(11) You are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.”
– C.S Lewis

(12) “Today is a new beginning, a chance to turn your failures into achievements & your sorrows into so goods. No room for excuses.”
– Joel Brown

(13) “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”
– Milton Berle

(14)“You know what’s just as powerful as a good cup of coffee in the morning? Starting your day with some good, loving thoughts. It can change how your whole day unfolds.”
– Karen Salmansohn

(15) “Staying positive does not mean that things will turn out okay. Rather it is knowing that you will be okay no matter how things turn out.”
– Unknown

(16) “A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, and it sparks extraordinary results.” 
– Wade Boggs

(17) “Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.”
– Marcus Aurelius

(8) “I like to encourage people to realize that any action is a good action if it’s proactive and there is positive intent behind it.”
– Michael J. Fox

(19) “The best way to predict the future is to create it”. – Abraham Lincoln

(20) “Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines”.  – Robert Schuller

(21) “Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine”. – Anthony J. D’Angelo

(22) “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all”. – Dale Carnegie

(23) “Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud”. – Maya Angelou

(23) “Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation”. – Michael Jordan

(24) “Create explosive confidence”. – Robin Sharma

(25) “On the other side of the clouds is a bright blue sky”. Unknown

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12 Simple Daily Habits Will Change Your Life

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We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit. – Aristotle

Life Is Like a Layer Cake

Everything we do adds to everything we have already done in our life. Like adding layers to a layer cake, we accumulate the moments that have come before, to give us the present that we are living right now. Our moments of time compound themselves to give us the results we have in the different areas of our lives. We see this truth in our finances, in our professional lives, in our relationships, in our health and just about every area of our life.

Momentum

Achieving good results requires building consistent momentum over time. If we keep up with the good habits consistently over time, we will begin to see our finances improve, our relationships improve, our health improve and our professional life improve. However, distractions or loss of focus can easily make us lose all that we have worked hard to build. Bad habits are not hard to do; they require no effort at all and they are so easy to slip into. And bad habits also deliver bad results.

So how do we get the momentum? Well, first we have to be thirsty for change in our lives. We can use a particular time or event to decide to make changes or we can gradually make changes day after day.  The key is wanting to change and staying on the path day in and day out.

Pump The Water

Like pumping water from a pump to eventually get water, we need to persevere even when we don’t see any results right away, even when it seems like nothing good is happening. At first, no water comes out of the pump, then, as we keep pumping a little water comes and then, finally, it comes gushing out. Don’t be discouraged when at first you don’t see results or when people around you don’t notice any difference. The results will come and they will come exponentially after a certain time.

Everyone can do simple things to make a difference, and every little bit really does count. – Stella Mccartney

Keep It Simple

There are simple things that we can do every day, which don’t take too much time. By doing these consistently, building up a habit, we can build a layer cake of moments that will produce amazing results. Try them – I mean really try them – every day for the long haul and you will see the difference they can make. Simple things done consistently over time will bring better results than doing bigger things inconsistently.

So, without further ado, here they are:

(1) Watch What You Watch

Our eyes are the guardians of our mind as well as being the window to our soul. We see a lot of things and watch a lot of things, but we can choose what to feed our eyes and our mind. We can choose what media we look at and what books we read. Everything we take in is either working for us or against us.

We can also watch to see who we can serve and who needs help. We can watch to see where we can help.

(2) Wonder Like a child

Our mind is a creative playground that we can activate and enjoy. Why not become like a child again and wonder about all the possibilities, the what ifs and the why not?  We can wonder and marvel at the world around us and take an interest in the tiny details. We can begin to wonder a few minutes each day.and start to feel more satisfied with what we have and appreciative of everything and everyone around us.

(3) Walk Anywhere, Everywhere

Let’s get outside and walk around. It doesn’t have to be a timed exercise with the goal of increasing our heart rate and building our aerobic capacity. I mean, just simply – walk for the fun of it, for the health of it. And, we actually don’t have to take our cellphone or media with us. We can just walk and think, wonder and dream. As an added bonus, walking gives us the opportunity to see interesting things around us and meet up with neighbors and people we may know and or that we don’t know yet. Walking outside connects us with the world.

(4) Work: It Pays

Work is a satisfying activity especially when we are in control of when we do it, why we do it and how we do it. Working gives us a reason to get up and a reason to rest after. Work helps us to activate our mind and hopefully our bodies as well. Working with others is beneficial (and challenging – but challenges can be beneficial).

(5) Water: The Elixir of Life

Drink water every day. Drink enough water every day. There are huge health, emotional and mental health benefits to drinking water.  Don’t neglect the water habit.

There are so many benefits from drinking water;

  • alleviates fatigue
  • promotes weight loss
  • improves skin color and texture
  • helps with brain function
  • eliminates waste and toxins

So grab a few glasses of water each day and drink up!

(6) Seek Wisdom

We are not always right and often we are wrong.  We can learn from others and from their experience. Keeping an open mind and being willing to learn will help us to keep on track and not fall into the pitfalls of life that can be avoided. Wisdom goes hand in hand with listening – the more we listen, the more we learn.

(7) Just Love

Without love what is there?  Nothing good happens without love. The Greeks had three categories of love, one of which is agape or selfless other-centered love. When we love in terms of others and what we can do for them and sometimes at a cost to our own comfort or convenience, we will reap huge benefits.

(8) Listen: People Will Love You For It!

Everyone is looking for people to listen to them and to hear what they have to say. Everyone has a story. Why not cultivate the habit of listening to those around us? People are literally aching for people to hear their story, to listen to them. We are all wired to feel accepted, approved and appreciated, and having someone listen to us helps us to feel appreciated and important.

Let’s not listen just to formulate what we are going to say in response to someone else. Let’s listen with no agenda other than wishing to hear the other person.

(9) Read: It Works!

Reading just 30 minutes a day over time will produce amazing benefits. I hear you – “What? I don’t have 30 minutes a day to read!”  Well, quite honestly, I think we spend at least that amount of time on other activities like social media or television each day. And I would add that we really can not afford not to acquire this habit. Reading 30 minutes a day would mean that you could probably get through 2-3 books in a month and 24 to 36 books in a year!  That is amazing! Think of all you could learn in one year by cultivating a simple daily habit of reading.

(10) Rest and Relax

Nap time!! Just kidding! Who has time for a nap every day?  But we do need to rest and recuperate.  Don’t ignore this important benefit. It’s not about all work and no play. There has to be some balance. In fact, regular downtime will increase our productivity and help us maintain better mental, physical and emotional health.

(11) Thank Everyone

We have so much to be thankful for.  The very fact that we are breathing is enough to be thankful.  We actually have so much more than we think we have.  And being thankful, having an “attitude of gratitude”, to borrow a cliché, helps us to take our mind off our problems.

(12) Guard Your Associations

We need people and we need people who will help us grow (and challenge our mental and emotional capacities!).  Encouraging friends are so important to our well – being. Some might prefer to be a “hermit” and not be around people. I guess that’s ok too. But encouraging people do help us to have confidence and challenging people can help us build our skills.

Conclusion:

Live simple. Cultivate good habits and go for the long haul. Enjoy, laugh and have fun.  Give life your very best shot.

Have a great day!

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25 Thought – Provoking Quotes on Trust

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“Trust is the glue of life” as Stephen Covey says in his book ” The Speed of Trust. No relationship, personal or professional can hold any water without it and no effective and authentic communication can take place in the absence of trust. Without trust, we live in fear and will seek only to protect ourselves. Trust is the foundation of all economic and social activity. We don’t have to look very far to see what happens when the bonds of trust break down.

But the good news is we have the power, the information and the ability to foster an environment of trust because trust begins with us. When we show or trust in others, people often (though not always) want to show themselves as trustworthy. Trust breaks down when one side chooses not to trust, but it is built up when trust is encouraged and given. Yes, it is true that trust has to be earned. We can not give our trust away blindly. But we can encourage people to be trustworthy by showing them that we believe in them and in their desire to do good. Trust is a two-way street that should be walked on very carefully and wisely.

Here are some quotes on the subject of trust:

(1) Don’t trust the person who has broken faith once.
– William Shakespeare

(2) Trust starts with truth and ends with truth.

(3) Trusting is hard. Knowing who to trust, even harder.

(4) Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships. – Stephen R. Covey

(5) Don’t trust everything you see. Even salt looks like sugar.

(6) The best proof of love is trust. – Joyce Brothers

(7) “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it.” –Warren Buffett

(8) People follow leaders by choice. Without trust, at best you get compliance.” –Jesse Lyn Stoner, author of Full Steam Ahead

(9) “Wise men put their trust in ideas and not in circumstances.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

(10)  “Learning to trust is one of life’s most difficult tasks.” –Isaac Watts

(11) “We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.” –Thomas Moore

(12) “Trust is like blood pressure. It’s silent, vital to good health, and if abused it can be deadly.” –Frank Sonnenberg, author of Follow Your Conscience

(13) “The people when rightly and fully trusted will return the trust.” –Abraham Lincoln

(14) “Trust, but verify.” –Ronald Reagan

(15) “He who does not trust enough will not be trusted.” –Lao Tzu

(16) “Leadership requires five ingredients–brains, energy, determination, trust, and ethics. The key challenges today are in terms of the last two–trust and ethics.” –Fred Hilmer

(17) “When the trust account is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective.” Stephen R. Covey

(18) “Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.” –Albert Einstein

(19) “When mistrust comes in, loves goes out.” –Irish proverb

(20) “I don’t trust anyone who doesn’t laugh”. Maya Angelou

(21) “Trustful people are pure at heart, as they are moved by the zeal of their own trustworthiness”. – Criss Jami

(22) “Earn trust, earn trust, earn trust. Then you can worry about the rest”. – Seth Godin

(23) “I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together”.  – Marilyn Monroe

(24) “You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time”.  – Abraham Lincoln

(25) “It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust”. Samuel Johnson

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Are We Less Trusting Today?

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Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships. – Stephen R. Covey

Do any of the following apply to you?

  • Do you trust the ATM machines with your money and identification?
  • Do you trust other drivers on the road?
  • Do you trust the Used Items Market (including used cars)?
  • Do you trust drivers in carpooling?
  • Do you trust discount offers on the internet?
  • Do you trust people to be on time or do what they said they would?
  • Do you trust people to repay a loan?

If any, most or even all of them apply to you, you are certainly in very good company. In a survey conducted by the Pew Research Center, the following question was asked:

Generally speaking, would you say that most people can be trusted or that you can’t be too careful in dealing with people”?

Millennials came out on top as the least trusting group at only 19%, whereas boomers were twice as likely to be trusting at 40%. Other statistics suggest that people are less and less trusting in institutions. In America 13% trust in government leaders and 25% trust in banking institutions.

You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough. – Frank Crane

Clearly, trust cannot be assumed and certainly, it appears to be very fragile.

What Factors Determine Trust?

How do we decide whether or not we will trust a person or group of people? What are we looking for? In its article The Decision to Trust, the Harvard Business Review outlines the following 10 factors involved in making a “trust decision”.

The level of Tolerance to risk

Our tolerance to risk depends on how much we are willing to cast our cares to the wind and have faith that things will turn out ok. Some people are less cautious or alternatively, more willing to take a chance. Others feel the need to be more in control of a situation and people’s actions.

Level of Adjustment

How comfortable we are in our skin and in our environment can determine the degree to which we are willing to trust. If we feel capable and confident in our selves and believe the same about others, we are more likely to trust them.

Relative Level of power

Our level of authority within an organization can have a certain influence and somehow make us more or less vulnerable to positional risk. For example, an employee is not in the same position or may feel less able to offer constructive criticism than an employer or person in a higher organizational position.

Degree of Security

Our sense of situational security also plays a role is our ability or choice to trust. It could be a matter of career/employment stability or environmental risks such as travel. We tend to measure or calculate the possible scenarios and outcomes of insecure situations.

Number of similarities

Like-minded people tend to gravitate toward one another (even if in love, opposites attract). We are more willing to work with, spend time with and listen to people who share commonalities with us such as common cultural values, shared personality traits, or a common membership to a group such as a sports group or religious organization.

Alignment of interests

Another determining factor in giving away our trust is how well our interests line up with one another. In other words, if I am going to give my trust over to an individual, do I feel confident that he or she is concerned about my interests and that I don’t have to question his or her motives?

Degree of benevolent concern

How much is the other person to lay o the line? Does he have a certain degree of the welfare of other people around him? To what degree is he willing to sacrifice his own interests and serve others over himself? These are important qualities of a leader. A person who puts others over himself will attract the trust of others.

Competence

We are more likely to put our trust in someone who demonstrates competence especially in a professional or service context over other concerns, For example. when we are flying on a plane we are more concerned with the pilot’s ability to fly a plane safely than whether or not he is a likable person. Similarly, it doesn’t matter too much to us as much whether our dentist likes fishing (like we do) if he or she is not able to fix our dental issues.

Predictability and Integrity

How reliable is the person to whom we are considering giving our trust? Do they have a good track record of delivering what they promised? Can they be counted on to do what they say they will do and in the time frame given?  To give our trust to another individual, we need to feel confident that they will come through for us. No one wants to put his trust in someone that can not be counted on.

Level of communication

Effective and honest communication is crucial to building bonds of trust. When people feel that they are free to share and be heard and that information is clear and accurate as well as helpful and given in a spirit of mutual interest, they are more willing to trust. they also tend to feel more trustworthy in the eyes of others.

The fundamental glue that holds any relationship together… is trust.

So what does trustworthiness look like? What does it take to earn the trust of others?

Characteristics of  Trustworthiness?

Inc lists the following 15 characteristics of a trustworthy person in its article: Want to Know If Someone Is Trustworthy? Look for These 15 Signs

  1. Consistent
  2. Compassion and humility
  3. Respectful of boundaries
  4. Willing to make sacrifices
  5. low pressure
  6. Respectful of time (theirs and other’s time )
  7. Grateful
  8. Not overly concerned with money
  9. Have a good track record with being right
  10. Do not engage in gossip
  11. Value learning
  12. Value connecting people
  13. Supportive
  14. Willing to confide
  15. Transparent

Trust is like a paper, once it’s crumpled it can’t be perfect again.

Why Do We Have Trouble Trusting?

Trust and trustworthiness have a lot to do with how we deal with people and are developed through spending a good amount of time with them. Unfortunately, these days, we, as a society (and I am using western societies as an example), are increasingly media- focused rather than people-centered. Our human contacts are often not as deep as they could be and we spend a lot more time with media (cell phones, computers, video games) than we should.

Much of the media that we take in is superficial, negative and sucks up our time and energy. The negative in the media is relentlessly pumped out whereas good news and behavior in the media are comparatively downplayed. So, all in all, we are an individualistic society and spend far less time interacting with people than in past generations.

Is it no wonder that we have such difficulty trusting? When most of what we encounter around us ( in media, advertising) is negative or superficial, and money focused, it is difficult to foster trusting relationships. In a world where people are considered disposable, it is hard to want to invest in people and become vulnerable. We prefer to protect ourselves. so we close ourselves off in an effort to do so.

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” – Ernest Hemingway

Trust Is the Glue of Life

As Stephen Covey said in his book The Speed of Trust, “trust is the glue of life”. No relationship, personal or professional can hold any water without it and no effective and authentic communication can take place in the absence of trust. Without trust, we live in fear and will seek only to protect ourselves. Trust is the foundation of all economic and social activity. We don’t have to look very far to see what happens when the bonds of trust break down.

But the good news is we have the power, the information and the ability to foster an environment of trust because trust begins with us. When we show or trust in others, people often (though not always) want to show themselves as trustworthy. Trust breaks down when one side chooses not to trust, but it is built up when trust is encouraged and given. Yes, it is true that trust has to be earned. We can not give our trust away blindly. But we can encourage people to be trustworthy by showing them that we believe in them and in their desire to do good. Trust is a two-way street that should be walked on very carefully and wisely.

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25 Motivational Quotes on Procrastination

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Have you ever met someone who says “I’m the queen (or king) of procrastination? Maybe you have. I know I have. Maybe that person is you. At any rate, I think we are all guilty of procrastination to some degree or another. What is it about procrastination that, even though we don’t like to do it, know that it won’t help us and will even cause us stress, causes us to continue putting off doing what needs to be done? Are we suckers for self-inflicted punishment?

Procrastination is so common that it is almost cliché and yet, it is so destructive. In the business world probably millions of dollars are lost each year due to a failure to get things done on time and a failure to address people problems. In government organizations, procrastination is often ignored or swept under the carpet as problems are not dealt with.  All kinds of problems – health issues, relationship troubles, financial problems, and business or work related issues can be traced to procrastination. It really is the grand thief of our well being and happiness.

Some Reasons Why People Procrastinate:

  • A tendency to work on small tasks because they’re Easier
  • Perfectionism
  • Fear of the Unknown
  • Lack of Motivation
  • Unclear About How to Get Started
  • Distractions

Quotes

(1) “Procrastination is the bad habit of putting off until the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday.” ~ Napoleon Hill

(2) Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday. – Don Marquis

(3) After all is said and done, more is said than done. – Anonymous

(4) “I don’t wait for moods. You accomplish nothing if you do that. Your mind must know it has got to get down to work.”—Pearl S. Buck

(5) “Someday is not a day of the week.”―Janet Dailey

(6) “The more time you have to do things, the less you are able to get done.”―Joyce Rachelle

(7) “Do you feel inspired yet? Are you ready to get out there and tackle the next big project you’ve been put off again…and again…and again?” – unknown

(8) “Even if you’re on the right track – you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” – Arthur Godfrey (radio host)

(9) “If you put off everything till you’re sure of it, you’ll never get anything done.” – Norman Vincent Peale

(10) “The greatest amount of wasted time is the time not getting started.” – Dawson Trotman

(11) “Amateurs sit and wait for inspiration, the rest of us just get up and go to work”. – Stephen King

(12) “You can’t get much done in life if you only work on the days when you feel good.” – Jerry West (Basketball player)

(13) “The only difference between success and failure is the ability to take action.” – Alexander Graham Bell

(14) “Waiting is a trap. There will always be reasons to wait – The truth is, there are only two things in life, reasons, and results, and reasons simply don’t count.”
– Robert Anthony

(15) “If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it. ~Olin Miller

(16) “You may delay, but time will not, and lost time is never found again”. – Benjamin Franklin

(17) “A year from now you may wish you had started today.” – Karen Lamb

(18) “You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.” – Abraham Lincoln

(19) “The two rules of procrastination: 1) Do it today. 2) Tomorrow will be today tomorrow.” – author unknown

(20) “I remember reading somewhere about an organization called Procrastinators Anonymous. I think they had been in existence for some years but had never gotten around to having a meeting.” – author unknown

(21) “It was my fear of failure that first kept me from attempting the master work. Now, I’m beginning what I could have started ten years ago. But I’m happy at least that I didn’t wait twenty years.” -Paulo Coelho

(22) “Anyone can do any amount of work, provided it isn’t the work he is supposed to be doing at that moment” – Robert Benchley

(23) “Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.”– Abraham Lincoln

(24) “Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task.”– William James

(25) “Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week.” – Spanish proverb

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Is Procrastination Stealing Your Life?

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Have you ever met someone who says “I’m the queen (or king) of procrastination”? Maybe you have. I know I have. Maybe that person is you. At any rate, I think we are all guilty of procrastination to some degree or another. What is it about procrastination that, even though we don’t like to do it, know that it won’t help us and will even cause us stress, causes us to continue putting off doing what needs to be done? Are we suckers for self-inflicted punishment?

Procrastination is so common that it is almost cliché and yet, it is so destructive. In the business world probably millions of dollars are lost each year due to a failure to get things done on time and a failure to address people problems. In government organizations, procrastination is often ignored or swept under the carpet as problems are not dealt with.  All kinds of problems – health issues, relationship troubles, financial problems, and business or work related issues can be traced to procrastination. It really is the grand thief of our well being and happiness.

Procrastination – The Life Sucker

Is Procrastination Stealing Your Time?

Time is so precious and we don’t get more of it, only less as it goes on. When we procrastinate, we are actually stealing time from ourselves, by keeping ourselves in a “holding state” where we constantly think about what we have to do, but don’t do. As long as we are there, we can not use this time thinking about and doing other things that are more productive and could benefit us. Time spent on fretting about when, how and where to do something as well as going through all the emotions of what will people think, say and do is really wasted time.

Is Procrastination Stealing Your Peace of Mind?

Having that black cloud of knowing we have to do something ( a particular task) and not really wanting to do it is certainly not conducive to peace of mind and wellbeing. It is stressful. It weighs on us and nags at us constantly until we finally make a decision about doing something. Procrastination comes in and hounds us like a tiresome and uninvited guest who won’t go away.  Certainly, peace of mind is worth more than having to go through this.

Is Procrastination Stealing Your Money?

Procrastination can actually be robbing our money. Each time we”forget” to return non-desired goods to the store for a refund, each time we fail to follow up on financial mistakes or fail to budget when we know we should – all of these and many more tasks not done can cost us untold amounts of money simply because we neglected to be disciplined. All these neglected tasks can add up over time and will show up in our pocketbook.

Is Procrastination Affecting Your Relationships?

Procrastination can make relationships suffer and even make them dissolve. Neglecting to keep in contact, forgive, have that difficult conversation, apologize – all these are relationship destroyers and relationships that are “on the line” have a time limit. Each time we fail to think less of the person or people we are in a relationship with and more about our own ego puts another nail in the coffin of the burial of the relationship. Procrastination, where relationships are concerned, is self-centeredness, plain and simple.

Is Procrastination Stealing Opportunities from You?

Think about all those times you said no or shied away from an opportunity. Maybe you felt it wasn’t the right time. Maybe you felt you weren’t good enough or that you would be rejected. Maybe you were scared to dive in. Maybe you wanted to wait to have more money. What if you had said yes? How might your life have been different? Sometimes procrastination – holding off on opportunities in the hopes of a better (or more convenient) one will come along – can shut the door completely for us and we will never know how things might have been.

So many opportunities are lost, so many things are never done because we were waiting for the right time, the most convenient circumstances and the right belief about ourselves and our abilities. Today is the day and someday is not a day on the calendar. Don’t steal from an old person – that old person may be you in the future.

Why Do We Procrastinate?

An article in Psychology Today: 9 Reasons You Procrastinate (and 9 Ways to Stop) suggests the following reasons for why we procrastinae:

We tend to “throw compassion to the wind” and not do what we should do

Procrastination is rooted in not being kind to ourselves. The more we put off doing what we know we should do, the more we keep ourselves in bondage to this task hanging over us like a black cloud. Who wants to live under a black cloud of things that we know we should do but keep putting off?

We may have learned to procrastinate from role models.

We learn by what we see and what we experience and from those around us. We mimic them, either consciously or unconsciously and if our role models and people in our circle of influence are regular procrastinators, there is a strong chance that we will be as well. It might be a good time to find new role models who get things done and reap positive results.

We don’t think we will be good at the task

Sometimes we just lack the confidence. We may just presume .with absolutely no evidence to back our theory up, that we are not able to do what we need to do.  One good place to start would be to not compare ourselves to others and assume that if we put our mind and elbow grease to it, we can do it.

We may be biased against doing a particular type of task.

For some reason, we may have a negative view or prejudice towards doing a certain task and we use this prejudice as an excuse. We may see the task as an annoyance and attack against our personal views. We could begin by being open to trying and possibly learning from the opportunity. It may be that our viewpoint was off.

We may have difficulty estimating time

The stereotypical student is good at miscalculating time, which is why many of them study for exams or finish projects at the very last minute. but students are not the only ones – many of us are guilty of setting inaccurate timelines, imagining that we have more time than we actually do to finish a task. We also fail to factor in the unexpected detours we need to take.

We tend to think short term rather than long term

We can tend to be slightly myopic when it comes to what is important, focusing on the hear and now rather than on the long term impacts and benefits or consequences. Not cultivating a mindset of getting to business and getting things done may have less than desirable consequences down the road of life.

We may have a perfectionist bent that hinders action

Perfectionists- gotta love them! Unfortunately waiting until everything is perfect – the perfect timing, the perfect circumstances as well as the opinion that a task has to be done perfectly will keep a person in the starting position only. In fact, they will never start and the job will never get done (by them). A suggestion would be to let go and be more flexible – allow for mistakes.

Conditions such as depression or anxiety may cause us to be inactive

These conditions can be debilitating and can hold a person prisoner to moods and ways of thinking. Tasks can be overwhelming to them. Apart from seeking out proper treatment, breaking down tasks into manageable sizes can help these people accomplish tasks.

We may have an intolerance towards leaving our comfort zone

Often we procrastinate is due to the fact that accomplishing a task such as calling someone or confronting someone, firing an employee can take us way out of our comfort zone. It can actually terrify us to the point that it paralyzes us. We somehow believe that we are physically or psychologically in danger. The best cure for fear is action, not inaction.

The Takeaway

Let’s call a spade a spade. Procrastination is a thief!  It can steal our money, our peace of mind, our opportunities and attack our relationships. Procrastination is sacrificing the future on the altar of the present. There are reasons why we procrastinate and, for the most part, these reasons are founded in the excuses we make and the beliefs or perceptions we have or tell ourselves. Perception is not reality; it is perception. Beliefs can be changed.  Taking action is the cure to procrastination.

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25 Quotes On The Power Of Daily Habits

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Everything we do adds to everything we have already done in our life. Like adding layers to a layer cake, we accumulate the moments that have come before, to give us the present that we are living right now. Our moments of time compound themselves to give us the results we have in the different areas of our lives. We see this truth in our finances, in our professional lives, in our relationships, in our health and just about every area of our life.

It’s all about momentum. Achieving good results requires building consistent momentum over time. If we keep up with the good habits consistently over time, we will begin to see our finances improve, our relationships improve, our health improve and our professional life improve. However, distractions or loss of focus can easily make us lose all that we have worked hard to build. Bad habits are not hard to do; they require no effort at all and they are so easy to slip into. And bad habits also deliver bad results.

So how do we get the momentum? Well, first we have to be thirsty for change in our lives. We can use a particular time or event to decide to make changes or we can gradually make changes day after day.  The key is wanting to change and staying on the path day in and day out.

Here are some inspirational quotes. I hope you will find them inspiring:

(1) “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.” Stephen Covey

(2) “If your habits don’t line up with your dream, then you need to either change your habits or change your dream.” John Maxwell

(3) “We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.” – John Dryden

(4) “Choices are at the root of every one of your results. Each choice starts a behavior that over time becomes a habit”. – Darren Hardy

(5) “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit”.  – Aristotle

(6) “In a nutshell, your health, wealth, happiness, fitness, and success depend on your habits”. – Joanna Jast, Hack Your Habits

(7) “A nail is driven out by another nail. Habit is overcome by habit”. ~ Desiderius Erasmus

(8) “A habit cannot be tossed out the window; it must be coaxed down the stairs a step at a time”. ~ Mark Twain

(9) “Every grown-up man consists wholly of habits, although he is often unaware of it and even denies having any habits at all”. ~ Georges Gurdjieff

(10) “Habits are safer than rules; you don’t have to watch them. And you don’t have to keep them, either. They keep you”. ~ Frank Crane

(11) “Good habits are worth being fanatical about”. ~ John Irving

(12) “The unfortunate thing about this world is that good habits are so much easier to give up than bad ones”. ~ Somerset Maugham

(13) “Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing”. ~ Vince Lombardi

(14) “Habit is a man’s sole comfort. We dislike doing without even unpleasant things to which we have become accustomed”. ~ Goethe

(15) “Let today be the day you give up who you’ve been for who you can become”. -Hal Elrod

(16) Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. – Jim Rohn

(17) “Practice isn’t the thing you do once you’re good. It’s the thing you do that makes you good”. -Malcolm Gladwell

(18) “Successful people are simply those with successful habits”. -Brian Tracy

(19) “The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking”. -Albert Einstein

(20) “There is no elevator to success, you have to take the stairs”. -Zig Ziglar

(21) “You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine”. -John C. Maxwell

(22) “Wouldn’t it be great to be gifted? In fact… It turns out that choices lead to habits. Habits become talents. Talents are labeled gifts. You’re not born this way, you get this way”. -Seth Godin

(23) “The chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken”. -Samuel Johnson

(24) “If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude”. -Colin Powell

(25) “Success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out”. -Robert Collier

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How Being “Flexible” Will Change Your Life

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Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be bent out of shape – anonymous

There a good many of us who really don’t like change and we certainly don’t like to have our plans or our routines interrupted. It can even make us feel somehow insecure when the things we are used to doing or the way we are used to doing them suddenly change. Adversity: illness, children growing up and leaving the nest, best friends moving away or having to move can all be unsettling at the least and even traumatizing in the extreme.

And then there is our personality or our temperament. Some of us may be more rigid than others. Some of us don’t deal well with conflict or “messy” personalities at work or school. Some of us panic if things change too much in our environment. Others prefer to crawl into their “cave” rather than have to deal with difficult situations. So here is the question:

Flexibilit requires an open mind and a welcoming of new alternatives – Deborah Day

How Flexible Are You?

That is a tough question, isn’t it?  How we perceive ourselves is not necessarily how others perceive us. Maybe we think we are flexible and open-minded and adventurous, but those around us might not share that opinion. Here are some questions to consider and they are far from exhaustive:

  • How do you handle adversity?
  • Do people consider you easy to work with?
  • Are you open to other (different and opposing) opinions?
  • Do others consider you to be flexible and adaptable?
  • Are you approachable?
  • Do others consider you to be open-minded?

On a scale on 1 to 10 (for each one), how would you rate your flexibility? Did you pass the test? Just something to think about.

By definition, being flexible means being able to bend without breaking. In our relationships, that is certainly true; if we don’t “bend” a little, something will break, usually the relationship.

Flexibility is the key to stability – John Wooden

The Importance of Being Flexible 

There are a number of positive outcomes from being an “adaptable/flexible” person:

1. It Increases the Trust that Others Have in Us

When we are able to adapt to new situations or changing circumstances, it is reassuring to others when we are able to flow with the change and not ball up in panic. Others will see us as a stable ship that is not tossed every which way by the changing winds. They will put more trust in someone they can count on to be present and stable no matter what happens.

2. We May Receive More Personal and Professional Recognition for Our Flexibility.

Adaptability ( another word for flexibility) is a tremendous asset in the business world and just about anywhere. People who tend to take things in stride receive more respect and recognition from others simply because they admire and value the quality of being able to adapt. Furthermore, people appreciate the thoughtfulness of someone who is willing to yield and help others in a pinch rather than remaining focused on their own wants and needs.

3. It Helps Us to Adapt to the Ups and Downs of Change More Easily

Being a flexible or adaptable person helps us to take life messiness with a grain of salt. With this skill or trait, we are not bound by our perceptions or thoughts, but we can adjust the way we think and change our expectations accordingly. the ups and downs of life or the hills and valleys will not have as much of a devastating impact on us because we accept and move forward.

4. It Gives an Opportunity for Growth -We Learn from Adapting)

Having a flexible approach to life can teach us many things. When we are open-minded and willing to learn, we gain new understanding and open the doors to new opportunities which may have been closed if we remain rigid in inflexibility (stuck in our ways). The more we learn, the more we grow and the more we grow, the more adaptable we become.

5. We Become Better at Taking Initiative

Being an adaptable person also means that we are more willing to take risks and open up conversations. We are more willing to try and more willing to fail. It becomes a lifestyle eventually because by taking initiatives and risks, we become more confident and empowered. It is liberating and exciting. Being a flexible person willing to try new things sets us free from being locked into the same old, same old.

6. We Develop an Increased Capacity for Creativity

Increased creativity goes right along with a flexible mindset.  A flexible person is not held down by “the way we have always done things” and are open to new ideas and creating new ways of doing things. More and more organizations are seeking out people who are creative and willing to explore new possibilities.

7. We Develop More Confidence in Ourselves and Our Abilities

As stated earlier, having a flexible mindset can help us to be more confident in ourselves and abilities. This confidence comes from being willing to let go of our routines and step out of our comfort zone to explore new zones. The more we are willing to try and fail, the more we will develop our confidence.

Problems dissappear when we are willing to become flexible – Roxana Jones

The Three Important Questions

1. Who is important?

2. What is important?

3. What is the ultimate goal?

The Who

Problems most often involve people. We are stuck with people whether we like it or not. And conflicts are usually the result of one or both people (or groups) being unwilling to budge on a matter. Since people are usually involved and we are a “people” too, maybe we should look there to see what we may need to change or see differently. In any situation with people, there are questions we need to ask:

Who is involved and important?  Are we looking at the person or the situation? Who is directly or indirectly involved with our choices, attitudes, behavior etc.? In every situation, who is being served: family members, customers, colleagues? Weighing in on who will be impacted helps us to have perspective.

The What

The second question to ask is What. What is happening? What is going on?  Now that we have established the “people” part of the situation, we need to deal with the nature of the problem.

What is the real situation?  Is it urgent or important or both? Setting priorities can help us decide when to put our foot down and when to let it go. Are there creative options that can involve others and help them feel that they have a say?  Evaluate the situation and decide what is important.

What Is the Goal?

In every situation, there is a goal, whether we are aware of it or not. Sometimes people may have a different perspective on the goal or different goals altogether. So, really, this step is about establishing what the common goal is -what are we aiming for the long term? What are we looking to preserve, strengthen, improve or grow?  When we put anything or anyone into a long-term perspective, it becomes easier to be less concerned with holding our position or hanging onto routine or tradition. We can let go and flow.

Can We Be Too Flexible?

We can certainly be overly flexible and this can have a negative impact around us. Simply put, when there is too much flexibility, things don’t get done, expectations don’t get met, people lose trust and confidence and direction are lost. Ultimately, people get annoyed, frustrated and even hurt by too much adapting and compromising. Flexibility is a fine line.  When do we flex and when do we hold the line? We need to set limits, have boundaries and some semblance of structure and direction. Then, once these are in place, we can use our judgment as to when to bend and when to hold tight.

The Takeaway 

Flexibility is really a non-negotiable in today’s world. Everything changes and will continue to change. And we can’t always expect that everything will fall into our neatly packaged way of how things should be done. Flexibility is, at its core, a survival skill- we cannot get along in life without it. If we do not develop this skill, we will fall prey to the winds of life and be a victim of change and adversity.

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